My fiance (35M) and I (28F) have been together for a little over a year and engaged for about a month. were currently in a LDR in which I’ll move so we can be closer together. The relationship is great, we may have disagreements but we never argue, and on paper, he knows to do everything right. He handles any travelling and dinners out, he’s extremely respectful and theres just no power struggle in our relatonship, whether that be because its only been a year or because we are long distance or because he is a good person, I can never fault him, however I feel as though he is not inlove with me. Our I love yous are automatic and usually only happen when were texting eachother goodnight, like clock work. Even as an anon I dont want to get into intimacy details but lets just say, even when we are together, physical touch is not that natural though Ive mentioned to him that that was my love language and how i feel loved. If I send him a photo of me, he’ll compliment it but other than that, there’ll never be a random compliment at all or really any random mention of how I make him feel unless I do first. And not to compare but in previous relationships, I could recognise that I was very loved, even in those moments, I never found myself second guessing if my partner was inlove with me like I am now. So now I cant help but wonder if he wants to get married, not because he truly thinks Im the person for him but if hes just ready to settle down in general and Im not a bad option. I recognise that in moving continents to be with him, Im leaving behind my family, friends and job and I worry if things remain the way they are, he may not be able to be there for me emotionally to his and my capacity and Im beginning to rethink the whole thing.
My question really is, is how do I bring these concerns up to him? That I dont think hes inlove with me?
TL;DR: I believe my fiance loves me but is not inlove with me and the lack of affection has me thinking that perhaps I should not uproot my life to be with him since I do not feel emotionally fulfilled now and know it can only get worse once I move to a foreign country. How do I proceed?
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When do you plan to move? From what you’ve written it does sound like he’s in the relationship for the wrong reasons but you don’t sound that excited about it either.