My partner works with cars. If he says something about cars or car recalls or really anything in the car industry I trust him. I have never worked with cars. I have no expierence with cars so I wouldn’t declare that my knowledge is superior to his and fight him about it.
I’m a CPA. I’ve worked for the most prestigious accounting firms in the world. I’ve worked for fortune 500 companies. I’ve worked for the IRS. Yet, when discussing the tax treatment of something my partner insisted what I said was wrong and he was right, because he heard some dude on a podcast say something different. I literally worked directly with the people who wrote the tax code and directly got to ask them questions. I sent out official IRS guidance on the tax code but yet he believed the Podcaster dude over me. I’m so hurt right now. That would be like if he said something about trucks and I was like nah this chick I watch on YouTube who has never worked with cars in her life said this so I think you’re wrong and youtube chick is right.
I sent him the official irs.gov page that proved I was correct and he didn’t apologize he just said oh that’s not what the youtube dude said.
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Then maybe he should go date the YouTube dude.
I know this happens a lot, I work in game dev and the guys insisting they understand it more than I do make me laugh, but also I am not dating any of them.
He’s sexist, obviously. He needs to address that immediately or lose you.
Not being able to discern quality sources of information is unfortunately a sign of low intelligence.
Your partner isn’t the brightest bulb but it’s sweet that you love him anyway!!
Clearly the next time you have an issue with your car you should go to YouTube instead of asking him about it.
What you’re experiencing isn’t just a frustrating personal quirk — it’s part of a broader, systemic issue. Men are often socially conditioned to dismiss women’s authority, even when the woman is clearly the most qualified voice in the room. You’re a CPA with elite credentials, years of experience, and direct access to primary IRS sources. Yet your partner chose to believe a random podcaster over you. That decision wasn’t about facts — it was about power.
This kind of dynamic is well-documented. In professional and intellectual spaces, men routinely interrupt, talk over, and second-guess women. In a 2017 episode of the More Perfect podcast titled “Object Anyway,” researchers analyzed U.S. Supreme Court oral arguments and found that Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg — one of the most respected legal minds in the country — was interrupted far more frequently than her male colleagues. And it wasn’t the public doing it; it was male justices and attorneys. She often had to modify her speaking style just to be heard.
If even RBG struggled to assert her voice in a room full of men, what chance does the average woman have — in meetings, at home, or in a relationship?
This isn’t just about him disagreeing with you on taxes. It’s about trust, respect, and whether your expertise — your voice — is taken seriously. When someone refuses to acknowledge your credibility, doubles down after being proven wrong, and instinctively defers to another man instead, it’s not a one-off. It’s a symptom of a culture that teaches men their opinions matter more.
Naming that — as systemic misogyny — is a crucial first step. Expecting your partner to recognize it and do better isn’t asking too much. Emotional maturity includes the ability to say, “I was wrong. You were right.” But patriarchy trains men to see that kind of admission — especially to a woman — as a threat to their status.
You’re not obligated to be his teacher. But you are allowed to draw a line. If your voice isn’t allowed to matter in your relationship, then what kind of partnership is it?
Misogyny. He’ll listen to a man, ANY man, over you.