There is blatant elder abuse happening. Verbal abuse, like calling the lady an evil bitch and worse. The caregiver doesn’t believe she has dementia, so she gets pissed off when she asks the same question. She thinks the lady is asking questions just to be annoying or get attention.
She’s abusing her funds, undoubtedly. The caregiver is the woman’s daughter. She talks about her mom like she’s a walking debit card.
She won’t do basic things like cutting nails, so I don’t know how toilet stuff is going to happen when that becomes necessary.
She’s began isolating the woman from her other family that matter to her, because they have begun criticising her treatment and suggesting that maybe she shouldn’t be the caregiver. She stopped charging her cell phone.
So yeah, I called APS. They went to their house today. The whole family is distraught even though they’re upset by the treatment. I don’t know what happened, but they’re freaking out. The woman hasn’t been taken or anything.
I feel like I did a really bad thing because it’s not like she’s being beaten…
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You fid the right thing. She deserves some reality check. I hope she gets her status revoked.
You did the right thing, and you are protecting this woman from further abuse and neglect. It’s understandable for the family to be freaking out, but they should have removed the daughter as the caregiver before it got to this.
Please don’t beat yourself up! You did the exact right thing to do. Whether the abuse is physical, emotional, financial or what it is still wrong and it is still abuse. I’m so glad that you did this. I hope in time you’ll be able to feel good about this because you’ve done nothing wrong hon. I am very fiesty about this issue because my late elderly Dad went through many years of hospital stays, nursing home stays, etc until he came to live with me and I became his caregiver. I saw some things you just do NOT want to see esp when it involves someone you love. Luckily we were able to get Daddy out of one place (he had to be there after an amputation) and into a better one when I saw how he was being neglected, then we were able to get an aide fired when we heard how one girl was speaking to my Dad. These people are very vulnerable and can’t often speak up for themselves. They don’t deserve to be treated badly ever. So know that you did the right thing. That person deserves kindness and care and hopefully they’,ok get that once they’re out of this situation.
Imagine the regret if something DID happen, you did good… plus, you created a record which can be invaluable in an investigation someday. I also want to add that abuse is not always physical, that’s a common misconception. It can be financial, neglect, isolation, reactive, the list is sadly lengthy.
You did the right thing. Abuse is more than just physical and if the family won’t protect that poor woman someone else has to.
You did the right thing. These agencies exist because the elderly and some disabled folks are vulnerable to abuse and neglect. I had to call concerning a lady who I used to go to church with. They didn’t take her away, but they kept a better eye on her and she improved. I hope she’s okay.