I am a teenage boy with a teenage girlfriend and we have had sex twice before, but today I got an erection during foreplay that just immediately began to go soft as I was putting the condom on. I am extremely attracted to her and get hard while just being around her and during head and handjobs. This is obviously causing issues in our relationship already, so please help.
I can’t get erect before sex all of a sudden-please give advice.
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Deja de pajearte, ese es un momento especial donde se disfruta del cuerpo del otro, las pajas y el porno te desensibilizan, haciendo que no rindas bien, esto no te ayuda te quita mucho
I’m no expert, but I’ve heard sometimes it could be linked to a heart condition/heart problems, but if you have no problems getting hard at other times it’s probably not that. Being under the influence of any substances could also impact that. Or it could be stress, I guess if it’s none of the above, try not to overthink it, just relax and be in the moment and hopefully it doesn’t happen again?
thinking about it certainly won’t help.try thinking about the woman in front of you that is horny for you
Focus on foreplay on your partner. When your body is ready to participate you will know.
Does the condom contain any kind of odd types of lube? The “last longer” type deflated things. Are you emotionally safe with this person? Are you guys in a physically appropriate location? Did anything happen recently with y’all (physically or emotionally, odd disagreement?). Is solo time with a condom also affected (THESE ARE RHETORICAL QUESTIONS).
Please note these are things you should think through and given your age I would prefer to avoid discussing them directly with you. Just wanted to get you thinking through these things.
You can always talk to a sexual health clinic. Some have “ask a nurse” options online. Teenage hormones can be weird depending on your age and talking through with them might yield better advice than I.
Edit: sometimes the fear it will happen again makes it happen again. A guy can get in his own head about it. From my understanding. Kinda like putting to much pressure on yourself and the slight “stress” means your body registers the situation as “unsafe, not the right time”. Trying again, slowly with less pressure on where the situation might lead has helped some guys I’ve talked to.
Oil up!
Give yourself some time, do not have sex or masturbate for just a couple of days, exercise, eat something 30mins prior to intercourse, do not force yourself to keep foreplay until you get erect, it will only give you more anxiety, don’t just follow your partner, you can also lead the ship sometimes maybe there are things that will get you excited eventually to have an erection. if you are not a heavy drug abuser, you’ll be fine.
Something in your noggin is getting in the way of your Johnson.
If your not using any substances like alcohol or smoking (sometimes a good buzz or high will just not let you get hard, girls go through it too we just won’t climax.) then I’d start talking to your doctor and check on all your health if it keeps happening. It could be a sign of something, but it also could just be stress and high emotion if your super into her and it makes you nervous and your thinking about it too much it can happen like that too. It’s possible you just need some lube or some mental relaxation. Just make sure to see a doctor, or even talk to your dad or good male family model if your close, if it keeps happening after trying some different habits.
This problem is usually linked to prostate issues but you’re too young to have prostate issues so I would recommend seeing your doctor about it and he/she can run test