I just need to get this off my chest. I have what people call a “work wife.” I think most people have had one or seen it before — that one coworker you just click with. The thing is, she’s a mom and has a boyfriend, but from everything I’ve seen and heard, it seems like she’s settling. He doesn’t really treat her right.
We’ve known each other for over a year, and during that time, we’ve both confessed feelings here and there. It’s always been kind of flirty, even joking about it — especially since I’m in a higher position than her at work.
Last night, we were drinking at different places, and she invited me to join her. After a little back and forth, I went. We had an amazing time together, like we always do. As we were leaving and people were heading out, she just stared at me for a moment and tried to kiss me. I stopped her and told her it wouldn’t be right.
Later on, I ended up taking her home. That’s when I told her I wanted to return the favor and kissed her. I know it was wrong, given her situation, but I couldn’t help it. It felt real in the moment.
She hasn’t brought it up since — only mentioned how drunk we both were. Now I’m just stuck. I don’t know if I should keep pursuing this or back off. I know it would make work really complicated, especially being in the position I’m in. But honestly, I’ve met her kid, and I love that kid. I could actually see myself being there for both of them.
I know this is a lot, but I didn’t have anyone else to tell. Just needed to let it out.