About a month ago, my 24-year-old girlfriend showed me a message from a guy friend of hers asking if she was free on the weekend. The thing is, she showed me this while we were together at my place. They’ve known each other for a long time, but he recently moved really far away and apparently comes back on weekends. I got super jealous and felt uncomfortable that he would even text her that.
Today, I randomly saw their messages on Instagram, and he had sent her a reel. I don’t know why, but I just got that bad feeling again. Ever since then, I can’t stop thinking about him, and it’s messing with my head. Even our sex life isn’t the same because every time I think about him, I lose all desire, and sometimes I can’t even get hard.
I’ve already asked my girlfriend about him, and she told me he’s just a friend. She even mentioned that when they went out for a beer once before he moved away, he never tried anything with her. She also made it clear to him that she’s in a relationship, so he definitely knows about me.
The thing is, my girlfriend is really serious about me. She talks about our future together, wants to live with me, and tells me she loves me more than anything. In bed, she says she doesn’t understand how anyone could cheat because she only wants me and that I’m enough for her. She even insists on having sex with me every weekend when we’re together.
TL;DR: My girlfriend (24F) and I (24M) have been together for 5 months. A guy friend of hers, who moved away but visits on weekends, texts her sometimes. She says he’s just a friend and has never tried anything, but I can’t stop overthinking it. It’s affecting our relationship and even my sex drive. Am I overreacting? How do I deal with this insecurity?