So I’m in highschool going into senior year and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’m not a social outcast I have loads of friends and go to school games and parties and such.
The thing is I struggle so much when trying to pull a girl or flirt with them, it’s honestly ridiculous. I’ve only ever “been talking” with a girl once and that was because my friends dared me to do it in middle school and it kinda turned into something, but I don’t count that.
The thing is I know girls like me, like some girl found out I had a thing for her and she started to talk to me a lot more, but when I didn’t make a move she eventually stopped, but her friends said she had wanted me to make a move.
Another girl I liked came up to me at a party and tried talking to me but I kind of shut down and it was really awkward.
All my friends say it’s not that serious and I should just talk to them but it’s like my brain literally shuts down whenever I’m about to do anything, and even now thinking about these situations, I am physically shaking with anxiety.
Any advice on how I can get myself to not have this problem.
Idk if this should go in relationship advice or something but I put it in this sub since I’m more looking for overall advice and Im not in a relationship
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Start by finding out things that they’re into. You’d be surprised with the answers. Once you find common ground, it’s so much easier from there man. Awkwardness goes out the window when you share a passion broheem. You got this. Just talk to her, and find out what she likes. I believe in you.
It’s totally normal to feel anxious about this kind of stuff!! I love the quote “if you’re scared to do something, do it scared”. As much as it sucks, the only way to really get more comfortable is through practice. From my experience as a woman, the girls are probably too nervous about what they’re saying to really focus on what you’re saying. It’ll get easier with time and as you get to know a person. Also, I think a lot of women find it cute when a guy is nervous in front of them so try not to overthink it too much!
You just gotta be brave and shoot your shot! Be the aggressor and don’t be scared! If it’s rejection you’re afraid of, heck! We all are and it happens. But this one girl likes you and you ain’t jump the chance when you knew she did. So step up and don’t worry about rejection.