For context, I 19F caught my 19M bf using an app called Buddy: Single & Video Chat. Long story short, he used it to jerk off to random chicks on the phone, paid money to do so. He in this action not only was essentially watching porn but also showing himself off (basically e-sex). As of right now I’ve decided to label it as a mistake. He is so remorseful, he only used the app for 20min, so only the night he used it.
The reason I am so hurt is because of the basis of our relationship. He was a friend of my ex, where my ex was a serial cheater and my now current boyfriend knew all about it, all about how in every relationship I’ve been in, I’ve been cheated on. He told me he recognized what I’ve been through and that he would never put me through such a thing..but here we are.
I’m merely just wondering if anyone else has experienced something like this? Is this enough to break up about? I’m a strong believer in 2nd chances, as I have also made mistakes because I’m young. However, I feel like we’re reaching an age where the real world is hitting us and cannot use “we’re just young and dumb.” I can tell he genuinely feels awful for what he did, not just because he got caught. I’m just so confused because the relationship itself is perfect, this is the only stain. At least in my previous relationships where I was cheated on the relationship was awful to begin with.
TLDR: my bf used an app to have e sex with strangers for 20min, is this a basis to breakup with him for?
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Your relationship is not perfect if he paid ladies on an app so that he could have cybersex with them. That’s more than watching porn. He might feel bad, but something drove him to do it. What is missing in your relationship that he felt compelled to do that instead of having sex with you?
No. I’ve never had my partner go on an app and touch herself to random people. The way you say that this is “Only a stain” is wild to me. That man mixed the whites with reds, it’s not “Only a stain” something’s are unforgivable. You’re at the perfect age to learn how to love and respect yourself, start by leaving this man. The fact that you have to ask this question shocks me. Cheating is cheating. He’s willing to lose you over jacking off to random people. Leave and find somebody who doesn’t cheat.