I am a black girl. Recently ive come to realize that many many black americans I do not identify with at all. I dress with a cutesy “cottagecore” style, and constantly get called whitewashed by my black friends. everytime I wear my natural hair I get called ugly and nappy by other black people. The black people at my school are walking stereotypes (loud, obnoxious, and many are actual criminals). Many black people are insanely religious (I am very atheist) and think beating their kids is ok(guy my age at my job laughed about the fact his mom beat him with a knife). At my job when loud people come in, you can already guess what they look like.You get the point, there are many reasons why I don’t find myself grouped with other black people.
When I picked my dorm for college and saw that all my roommates were black I guess I kind of freaked out since most of the black people I know are insufferable for these reasons I listed, and I changed my room. I now realize that was highkey racist of me and I feel so much guilt for it.
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Wow, it’s tough feeling disconnected. Maybe it’s worth exploring how those ingrained stereotypes, even ones we don’t consciously embrace, can influence our reactions and lead to these awkward situations, and sometimes it takes a little self-reflection to recognize that, and, despite the discomfort, recognizing our vulnerabilities and striving to learn from them is a sign of strength, because finding joy and connection, even amidst those challenging moments, truly illuminates the beauty of human resilience.
I don’t think it’s technically racism when it’s your own race. It’s just an intimate understanding of societal norms you don’t want continued exposure to.
Ngl, while I was reading this, I was thinking: does OP have some internalized racism? Then I got to the end of your post.
Fwiw, I think it’s great that you recognize that that could be a factor here. Do you have support systems you could perhaps talk to about this?
Just hate other races just as much as you hate the dark skinned ones.
You will find yourself not being a racist in due time.
you have a problem with conservatives not black people.
Don’t stress. You did what felt right for you. As you evolve you learn from past behaviours and evolve. That’s what growing up involves. If you look back and believe mistakes were made you learn from them. Don’t beat yourself up about anything. We are here for such a short time and there so much to absorb and learn-this is a small drop in a truly huge ocean.
This is some serious 🦝ing.
I would like to say this is fake but there are unfortunately lot of black people with this attitude.
Thank you for sparing the other kids this and letting them enjoy their college/uni experience.
Be better, black people aren’t a monolith, you especially should be aware of that.
Live and learn, and at least you are self-aware.
What Is cottagecore
I figure OP isn’t black or a girl at all and this is just a straight up troll account.
Yeah theoretically I would call you racist if you weren’t black definitely touchy but your still aloud to have your opinion and be comfortable where you live.
Where do you live in the US? Also, are from a family of immigrants? As a black woman, these things are very important. I live in Atlanta and there are all kinds of Black people here. When I lived on the west coast we were very few and expected to be a monolith to some extent. Immigrant background adds another layer.
You’re so different and special 🤍 you’re not like the other black girls my cottage core sweetums.
I hope this post is fake fr.
I’m 26 and I deal with that too. But I’ve learned to just ignore it and find black people that fit my vibe. I’m also a cottage core, croquette girly.
At what point is it pattern recognition?
It is human nature to learn from events, you need to keep moving forward and attempt to be a good person but understand attempting to be a good person means you recognize that you are not perfect.
Here’s a different analogy for you. All your life there was this fire burning blue and when you got to close it burned you time and time again for years. Then you got to college and there was a blue fire in your room and for the first time you had a chance to do something about it so you did.
Really? Perhaps it’s just me, but I wonder if those few negative experiences were simply a small snapshot of a much larger, more diverse reality… it’s all so complicated.
You internalized racism is self protection.
You don’t need to feel guilty for how other people have made you feel.
It’s peoples faults for the stereotypes existing. They don’t come out of nowhere.
Look at all the white people telling this astute black woman what she should think and feel.
Not racist but you are definitely prejudiced against your own. You’ve recognized the negatives and let them outweigh the positives. You didn’t even give them a chance :/
You’ll soon learn that other races also have these exact traits you tried to escape from lol.
Here’s your head pat, good girl
Hey! It’s the ‘I am ______ but I hate _____’ troll.