I’m 18 male. My girlfriend(19F) and I have been together for almost two years.
The last couple of months we’ve been a bit distant from each other. My gf has been on holiday for the last week (she’s coming back tomorrow night). Two days ago I went out drinking with a few of my mates, i was drunk but I wasn’t blackout drunk, i remember everything. A woman(23F) came over to me and we were talking for about an hour, one thing led to another and she invited me to her hotel room.
I woke up the next morning full of guilt. I need advice on how to tell my girlfriend. Do I tell her? Or do I just leave her and not tell her?
I know cheating is the shittiest thing you can do, I’m just here for advice.
TL;DR: I (18M) cheated on my girlfriend(19F) of two years. How do I tell her? Do I tell her?
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You tell her and accept the consequences like a man. Even if that means she dumps you.
tell her the truth, they break up. The relationship is over.
ex girlfriend, sucks but you’re 18. The 23 year old is weird as hell though
You can just break up with her. I don’t know if telling her is going to help anything. Maybe other people feel different, but you def need to break up with her if you don’t respect her enough not to cheat
just be honest. otherwise, the guilt you face will end up putting a strain on your relationship anyways & she will notice something is wrong. it’s always best to be honest in a relationship, it shows you actually care for and respect the other person, even though you cheating may be contrary to that.
and take this as a lesson. you’re young & it’s okay to slip up, but generally, cheating is not okay. i’m not saying that to reprimand your behaviour but just for you to take this as a learning lesson rather than beating yourself up over it.
do your part & move on with your life.
if the relationship was already a bit distant, is it worth salvaging at this point?
if you told her in person would you be open to harm in the moment or follow up? Is it ‘safer’ or better for her mental health for you to break up and not tell her what you did.
Greys Anatomy had a character that basically did it (decades ago) at this point and said ‘not going to tell her, not our of shame or such but i acknowledge that this is my burden to bare so i will live with it and never tell her’ do you really think you can lie and live with that lie forever?
if you can, (now we go to Friends) how does she eventually find out via the rumor mill. Is there a path where this comes up somehow later and kicks your ass (as it should)
Your young you make stupid mistakes… as above you need to be a man and tell her expect the worse be honest ..you should be feeling guilty it’s an arsshole thing to do
Well, if you seriously care about your gf, then its a no brainer to tell her. Trying to rationalize not telling her is only thinking about yourself, not her. Its a high percentage she’ll break up with you but its also not guaranteed. Maybe she’ll sense that you are genuinely sorry and give you another chance. Even if she doesn’t, at least you proved to yourself that you did care for her enough to tell her and risk losing her versus only thinking about yourself.
Yea dude. Tell her. It’s gonna be hard, hard lesson but it will teach you a lot. You will see how much you hurt her, and you’ll remember this the next time you find someone you love – you’ll keep their heart safe (I hope). But be prepared for this relationship to end
Yea dude. Tell her. It’s gonna be hard, hard lesson but it will teach you a lot. You will see how much you hurt her, and you’ll remember this the next time you find someone you love – you’ll keep their heart safe (I hope). But be prepared for this relationship to end
Yea dude. Tell her. It’s gonna be hard, hard lesson but it will teach you a lot. You will see how much you hurt her, and you’ll remember this the next time you find someone you love – you’ll keep their heart safe (I hope). But be prepared for this relationship to end