Confession: I hate how much I rely on external validation. I just wish I could genuinely believe in myself without needing constant reassurance.
I feel like I can never trust myself and always need validation from others.
Like if I do a dance show, even if I know I did well, I’ll still keep asking people “was I good? did I do okay?” over and over. Same with dressing up — sometimes I think I look good, but the second nobody compliments me or my Instagram stories don’t get many likes/reactions, I start doubting myself and thinking “maybe I’m not actually that good looking.”
It’s exhausting because I’m always second-guessing myself. I can’t just be confident in my own judgment. My mood literally depends on whether people approve of me or not. If they say nice things, I feel good. If they don’t, I spiral into self-doubt and overthinking.
Does anyone else go through this? How do you deal with it?
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Was you criticised or told off a lot as a child, even for the smallest thing?
Bro, tbh, some real talk? We all lowkey seek validation. It’s human nature and social media has got us hooked on that sweet instant gratification.
I grew up
You’re definitely not alone. Constantly seeking validation is exhausting because it ties your worth to everyone else’s opinion. The hard part is learning to let your own judgment matter more. Celebrate your wins privately, remind yourself why you’re proud of what you did, and slowly practice trusting yourself, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. You can get there.
I feel ya. I keep asking to and i do not believe people when they say I did good.