I cut off my friend because she was jealous of my healthy relationship.

I have been friends with this girl let’s call her Emma for 5 years now. Throughout our friendship of 5 years she has had 4 different boyfriends and her current bf, Chris. she’s been with for 3 of those 5 years. I on the other hand dated one guys from beginning of 2022 – summer 2023 who was very controlling I broke up with him and I had no issues with Emma throughout that relationship and then later 2023 I started dating my current bf, Jake.

From the beginning of when i started to date Jake, Emma has shown signs of jealously toward my relationship. Jake makes good money, has a nice car, a nice place of his own and He’s active. All import to this story. Things moved quickly with Jake, it didn’t feel rushed but I moved into his place and signed on the lease within a few months. Jake plans dates, spends time with me, in the year and 1/2 we’ve been together he’s never raised his voice at me. He compliments me often, he’s a great partner.

Now Emma started to complain to me about her relationship with Chris. It started with her complaining about there sex life. The lack of a sex life has told me her and Chris will go months without sex even tho she initiates often and that when he does take the bait, he doesn’t wanna put in any effort and she has to do everything and isn’t ever satisfied. She then asked if Jake and I have a decent sex life and I answered her with honesty, which was yes I am very satisfied and he always make sure I am satisfied. She gets visibly upset upset and changes the topic.

Then a week later she texts me telling me that she’s scared that Chris is going to hit her that they got into an argument at his parents house and that he was punching walls and slamming doors and screaming in her face and that she’s locked herself in the bathroom so I rush in the middle of the night to pick her up she runs out of the house barefoot with nothing but phone tears staining her face.

She proceeds to tell me that that happens often and I let her know that that never happens with Jake at this point me and Jake we’re moving in with each other and I let her know that that’s not normal and that whenever anything has been something that can turn into a argument and would have in my past relationships. We just simply sit down and talk about it and that’s how it should be. She then asked for me to take her back to her boyfriend, as I guess the upset her.

Eventually, we hang out again, and I tried to bring up that night because it honestly concerned me and she had nothing to say about it. She did start asking questions about my relationship with Jake because while we were hanging out, she saw me and Jake texting each other. She got all weird and was like you don’t have to text that boy about where you are and what you’re doing and I was like I’m not we’re just chatting. He knows that I’m here. I did tell him that that’s just respectful to let your partner know where you are. She then says how her and Chris will go days without texting each other. They do live with each other by the way at his parents house and this was also a problem her and Jake got into an argument because she wants to move out because she’s jealous that me and Jake have our own place.

She also got upset to learn that Jake compliments me often plans dates helps clean around the house and basic stuff like that that she straight up told me that she doesn’t know when the last time Chris complimented her or the last time that Chris took her on a date and that it’s literally what their argument that she ran out of the house crying was about was because she asked him to help her clean their bathroom that they share. Mind you I forgot to add were all 26-27 years old.

Couple months go by and Emma and Chris end up getting their own place. And every single time I see Emma all she does is complain about Chris how he is broke how she has to go everywhere on her own that she goes takes herself on dates on picnics on hikes and stuff like that and mentions how I went on a hike and she saw photos and I was like, yeah Jake took me on that for our anniversary. She then randomly tells me how she showed Chris a photo of me from my Instagram while she was stalking me and asked him if I was pretty and then started crying because she thinks that I’m getting treated better because I’m prettier than her I didn’t question what Chris’s response was and was so uncomfortable that I changed the subject to how was her job going.

We then get invited to come over to their place for dinner and when we get there, she’s just telling me about how they were fighting the entire time cooking us this dinner and tries to tell me that fighting is normal I believe she mentioned this bc I told her me and Jake don’t fight so I tell her yeah well we’ve been together a year now, and we still have never yelled at each other. We discuss our problems yes but that doesn’t have to involve yelling and room became uncomfortable after that

and after we left the dinner Chris messages Jake telling him to tell me to stop telling Emma about mine and his relationship because it was causing so many arguments between them and when Jake questioned me on this, I let him know like Emma and Chris fight all the time that she tells me he throws stuff at her head, he slams doors punches walls screams in her face over her asking him simple things like to help clean. I just simply said that that doesn’t happen in our relationship and I told him how I told how she gets upset over there lack of a sex life, she’s gets upset that he takes me on dates and how I don’t have to beg him to clean. I also mentioned her admitting to stalking me and putting my photo in her boyfriend’s face and crying and Jake just looked really concerned and said something is wrong with her and him both and that he wouldn’t continue being friends with her if he was me but that I can do what I feel is best.

Jake also told me that he understands that their relationship isn’t good but he doesn’t want to have to deal with Chris so please stop telling her about our relationship and this just kind of turned into me cutting Emma off because I can’t deal with a friend who is just so jealous of my normal healthy relationship that she’s becoming obsessive toward me and taking it out on her bad bf instead of just leaving him.

EDIT: I was told to add this comment I responded too.

Yeah, I tell her that doesn’t happen with Jake to try to open her eyes to there is better out there and she doesn’t have to deal with that I don’t see that as bragging. I would listen to her, tell her she can stay with me. I’ve told her that her relationship isnt good for her many times and Even told her she should leave before things get to the point he does hit her and I’ve came to pick her up many times when they fight and she’s scared.

EDIT: for anyone saying she’s not jealous she told me word from word that she is jealous that is why I titled it that