I have been in abusive relationships in the past, and grew up in an environment with a parent dating an abusive partner. Took a long break from dating. My single life has felt fulfilling. I didn’t give up on dating, just figured that if the right guy came along it’s a bonus.
Then, I met someone and was seeing him for a few months, we really clicked, but there were a few red flags. The last straw was when he made a “joke” about harming me.
Thankfully, I learned my lesson from the past. Even if he really did have good intentions and behavior in the long run, I cannot afford to risk to go through something like that again. I have not spoken to him since. I think he knows what he did was really wrong too, as I brought it up over text and he hasn’t reached out. He didn’t make any excuses, he has daughters and I figure that if one of them did the same exact thing he’d also tell them to stop speaking to the guy, or threaten them himself.
I’m so proud of myself for this, in the past I’d ignore my intuition.
But, I really do miss him. I miss to cuddle and kiss him and look forward to getting to see him, his smell. Our talks, his smile how he would look at me. Even though we’d only known each other for a few months. If I could trust staying friends with him, I would…
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Op, this internet stranger is proud of you too, it’s sometimes hard to take those warnings signs seriously.
You always want to give them the benefit of doubt, but really why? Take your safety seriously,it should be more important than someone else’s self esteem.
Yay! I’m so happy for you. Please stay the fuck away from him. He didn’t even apologize for his creepy ass comment. That shows you exactly the kind of person he is. Who wants a friend like that??