My MIL and I have had a weird relationship. I have been with my Husband for 5 years now, married for 2. She acts like she loves me oh so dearly but talks shit behind my back to everyone in the family. Shes a classic JNMIL who makes everything about herself but I learned to ignore it.
Our car broke a couple weeks ago and she offered to drive me to work. I pay her handsomely for gas and time. I found out couple days ago that she was telling someone how I take advantage of her and left out the detail where she takes alot of money from me for doing me a “favor”. I ignored it because I needed help. Last week our offer was accepted on our first house. And she told me I’m tearing her family apart by moving 20mins away. I ignored that. But today i find out she’s been saying how she wishes I wasn’t involved in the family. So I told her I won’t be a part of her life anymore. She’s free to see her son whenever she’d like. She definitely gaslit me and played the victim but i stood my ground.
My husband obviously doesn’t wanna see her but thats his decision and he can change his mind anytime and I’ll be ok with it. I’ll be chosing my peace.
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Good on you!
She’s getting exactly what she asked for so why is she upset?
Oh that’s right, she just lost her ability to bully you.
Enjoy your peace and quiet 💕