I kept my cool tonight at a good friends wedding and need to get this off my chest. An ex friend I am no contact with, who said some horrendous things about my dad’s suicide, was sat at the same table from me across from my husband and I. She does “not know” why I went no contact 3 years ago and kept trying to get my attention/get me alone all night. (My comment history has what she said if you want hot goss)
I am so proud of myself because I dipped, dogged, ducked, dived away from her for five whole hours while she tried to follow me, get my attention, and track me down. I wanted my friend’s wedding to be free from drama because she’s a sweetheart and deserves that! My dad liked her a lot too!
Unfortunately, the literal last five minutes we were gonna be there I got trapped and she came in for a hug….. I felt gross and icky but I sucked it up, gave monosyllabic answers to her questions about my life, and got out of the situation asap.
I just wanted to get this off my chest because I am so proud of myself for getting through this night! I didn’t make a scene and make it about myself/my trauma and made sure my friend was not aware at all of my distress. My husband has been saying he’s so proud of me (he 100% thought I was gonna smack at her when she went in for the hug)
Just needed to get it out there that I am strong and my dad would be proud of me… sometimes it’s hard
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Good job – sounds like you’re a much stronger person than I am.
So glad you were keeping your composure but sucks to have had the whole wedding and your mind occupied trying to dodge her. A vile person she is. Someone who is self aware would know to keep away after you cut them off so suddenly……..That one is something else for sure.
(I don’t mean this in a belittling way, but I love it when I get them, so I thought I’d offer you one):
Attagirl 🤍
You did great and…
How did she get seated at your table?
You never have to accept a hug you don’t want.
Shove your hand out for a hand shake or simply move and say “no”.
Well good, glad husband is proud of you, he seems like a charm.
That’s a great job tremendous restraint very unselfish and considerate. Well done
You are so strong & brave. I’m so glad you were able to do that. I read what the psycho said to you. No one needs to hear someone’s mentally unstable unhinged words like that ever, not for any reason, especially when they are grieving. What an awful person she is. I’m so very sorry that happened to you. As you already know, she couldn’t be more wrong. I’m so glad you have your husband at your side for support. It takes a lot to be able to do what you’ve done, a lot of people would just grin & bear it while feeling awful. Congrats on tonight, you are inspiring. You did it!
Did your friend that got married know what went down???
I’m a nosey rosey so I went to see what she said and sweet lord I am proud of you too cause honey I’d be in prison if she came within stomping distance. What a gross thing to say to someone. My best friends mom committed suicide several years ago and her grandmother told her sister it was her fault because her sister is a lesbian and was dating a woman. Like- pardon me? I’m swinging. Grandma or not.
Well done you.
I’ve just read what she said and how you kept your cool is beyond me and to do so well as this wedding shows your strength.
Let her wonder. When she’s all alone in the future she may wonder, but I think it’s something she’ll never will.
Well done OP,mhandling so maturely
I could have done that …. right up to the hug. Then I think I’d have exploded.
You did well and it just shows she holds no power over you anymore.
Good to keep in mind that ‘anger is just you punishing yourself for the sins of others’.