so i (25m) was dating this girl (27f) for almost 1 year. everything seemed chill with netflix, takeout, dumb inside jokes, occasional weekend trips. she told me she “loved how safe” she felt with me. i thought we were building something.
fast forward to last month. she goes on a “girls trip” to tulum. whatever, i trust her. then i notice she turns off her location. weird. she comes back and starts crying the moment she sees me. says “we need to talk.”
turns out she cheated. with two different guys. one was her “friend” she told me not to worry about, the other was some dude she met at a beach bar and “connected with spiritually.” she said it was “a moment of clarity” for her. WILD.
i was obviously crushed. but wait. it gets better.
she then tells me i made her feel “emotionally unavailable” because i didn’t always ask how her therapy sessions went. apparently that means i’m not “meeting her emotional needs.” this while she’s literally being tag-teamed in a beachfront airbnb by dudes named kai and tyler.
she leaves, blocks me, and posts on instagram the next day with a caption that says: “healing looks good on me.” she’s doing yoga on a cliff in a $300 matching set that i probably paid for.
and now her friends are DMing me to “not speak badly about her” because she’s “reclaiming her power.”
i thought we were the bad guys. i really did.
apparently we’re just the plot devices in someone else’s self-love arc now.
can someone explain what tf just happened to me.
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Tough life lesson but an important one.
Anyone can be the bad guy and anyone can be the victim regardless of any sex, race, gender, social status, whatever.
You learned who she really was, whatever good person you had imagined in your mind was an illusion meant to trick you and use you. She is a negative person who uses and manipulates others, you never had a chance to make it out of or through this relationship in any happy or normal way. But this is okay. Because now you know a little more what to look for in the future to protect yourself.
Take your time, take care of yourself, and for goddess sake whatever you do never have any contact with her or her friends ever again. It will only lead to more pain.
Trust me….
If people ASK YOU what happened, tell them this story. Make one of those dumb as fuck ai voice tik toks out of your own reddit post.
Her and her friends can all, very politely mind you, fuck themselves. You’re not obligated to rewrite history to suit someone else. I’m not saying to go around openly bad mouthing someone. But you owe them nothing.
You almost got caught but you know better now. Everyone is capable of great shittiness.
Best of luck king, NEXT.
Not all women are like this I promise you. I wish there was a way for the good girls to always end up with the good guys but it seems that it’s always good girl/bad guy, good guy/bad girl 🙁
You stick with the truth buddy. Fuck her
You dodged a bullet. She sounds so unstable.
>i was obviously crushed. but wait. it gets better.
I didn’t believe a word beyond this. I was on the fence, but literally everything after this is a cliché.
This is literally chat gpt.
What happened to you isn’t about who you are, what you did, or anything outside your control. It’s about her own choices and lack of integrity. It doesn’t matter what you provided, or how much you cared. People can be selfish, and they’ll twist things to avoid facing their own flaws. It’s painful, but this is her issue, not yours. You deserve someone who respects you fully, not someone who will turn your love into a plot point in their self-centered narrative.
The title is wild. Both sexes are shitty welcome to the world
Look at the OPs profile. This is all bullshit. Maybe AI for upvotes. He’s a virgin in another post an hour ago
Why do you think guys can’t get hurt in relationships? That’s an odd thing to say
Hahahahahahaha, yeah it doesn’t take much for the reality that there are shitty men and women out there to override the whole men bad women good concept.
I’m tired of having the gender wars argument. Are they good people or not? This is universally applicable and allows you to completely side step any gender wars bullshit.
I am however sorry that you got hurt. She will with time realise that she wasted too much time with people that didn’t care about her in the slightest.