And I know that’ll piss some people off, but I’m being honest.
Every time I open my phone, there’s something new I’m apparently supposed to care about. Some big issue. Some crisis. Some infographic telling me I’m a bad person if I don’t repost it. I’m tired of it. I don’t care.
I don’t care about the trending outrage of the day. I don’t care about your hashtags. I don’t care about the petitions or the links or the guilt trips. I don’t care about whatever new “global issue” people are screaming about on their stories this week.
And before you say it — no, this isn’t about being privileged. I grew up broke. I’m not financially well off now. I’ve struggled, I’ve worked jobs I hated, I’ve stressed about bills. So don’t come at me with that “you only don’t care because your life is easy” angle. That’s not the case.
But even if I was privileged, I still wouldn’t care. Because I’m done pretending.
Social media has turned into this weird space where you get shamed if you’re not constantly devastated about every single thing going on in the world. If you’re not posting about it, if you’re not commenting the right thing, if you’re not publicly weeping — you must be heartless. It’s fake. It’s performative.
I care about my family. I care about my friends. I care about what actually affects my life. That’s what I can control. That’s what I choose to focus on.
Everything else? That’s outside my control. And if something doesn’t directly impact me or the people I love, I’m not going to force myself to carry the weight of it just to make strangers feel better about their own performative caring.
Let’s be real — most of these people posting don’t care either. They just want likes. They want people to see them as “good.” It’s not about change, it’s about clout.
I’m not interested in faking emotions. I’m not going to keep pretending to be deeply invested in every issue that pops up online just because it’s what “we’re supposed to do.” That’s not real. That’s not human.
And don’t give me the “you’ll care when it affects you” line. Maybe I will. But it doesn’t right now. So I’m not going to pretend. I don’t care. And I’m not sorry.
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I don’t much care either.
Unfortunately for America this isn’t an unpopular opinion.
This isn’t unpopular. Humans are bad at caring about things that don’t directly impact them or their direct community. Like scientifically, provably bad at it.
Correct
As a mildly introverted person, I noticed a lot of more extroverted/”high energy socialite” type people are straight up faking emotions and emotional connections with one another, in a slightly cringey and insincere manner.
Using a hashtag or posting trendy stuff won’t make a difference, not for you and not for the people suffering from the current “global issue”. But knowing about it can be helpful for you knowing that a specific food item is likely to increase in price soon can be useful information for anyone that consumes that item and isn’t rich. Knowing a certain politician has disdain for people’s human rights is useful because they could be going for you next. In general it’s better for you if you know things than if you’re caught by surprise
You’re always going to “fail” by someone’s standards or another. I work with kids who have experienced trauma, and volunteer with at-risk LGBTQ youth; that’s not a flex or a brag, I only say it to point out that according to Vegan Reddit, I have no business talking about kindness and helping others because I still “consume the flesh of suffering animals and contribute to their torture.”
You have to do the best you can with what you are given the capacity and external/internal tools to deal with.
It makes me not care even more.
I ALSO write long diatribes to show how much I don’t care about things
This is a very popular opinion sadly. But if and when something happens to you and yours will you be okay if no one cares?
I personally don’t care either BUT I also want the world to be better. so I do what I can even without caring. or sometimes I just don’t do anything at all because other things take priority at the moment. oh well.
Growing up poor doesn’t mean you can’t also be privileged. There’s no one who’s exempt from every kind of privilege.
Not caring reeks of privilege. There are times I wish that I didn’t care so that it wouldn’t hurt so much but I’m glad that I do. It means that I’m human and that I care about something outside of myself.
You’re part of the problem.
I don’t think this is unpopular? There’s a whole number of people not on social media not caring and one of the issues of the people who do care that you see online is the fact that so many “don’t care” or as they say being neutral
Just pick and choose. What does matter to you is up to you. But it’s not wrong to care about at least something. But if you’re going to support a group check them out and see if they’re actually able to handle however you can support them. But to be completely non caring about anything is sort of messed up. You don’t have to give money or even much time if those aren’t available. But just being focused ONLY on yourself is fucked.
This is by a wide margin the least unpopular opinion ever posted on here. This is right up there with “breathing good” and “kittens and puppies soft”.
We get it, you’re edgy and “no one gets you”.
The irony of you posting this on social media. 🤣🤦♀️
Please, for everyone’s sake including your own, don’t effing add to the shit pile. You call it performative, but that’s how I see this post frankly. People that truly don’t care don’t engage and don’t bitch about it.
What makes you think WE care?
I don’t really care about people being performatively angry on social media. I don’t really care if your blood pressure goes up when you read the news headlines. But I do care about people voting based on memes, or staying home because it was raining or something on election day. I do care about that.
So you don’t care, that’s great. Super. But you said elsewhere on the thread that you’re gay. So when they start hauling gay people off to camps, are you going to want other people to care? Or should we all say it just doesn’t affect us directly, so oh well.
Focusing on what you control is great and more people should do it. Doesn’t mean it’s best to completely ignore what’s going on in the world and put it all in the category of ‘it doesn’t impact me and I can’t control it’. That’s how authoritarian empires are built, on the backs of the apathetic and the ignorant.
That’s more of a biological imperative of an individual with a normal biologically important social links. Nothing about what you said is unpopular.
I don’t even know what things you’re talking about.
I have a funny reddit feed, and a Carl Jung, Alan Watts, Terrence McKenna YouTube feed.
And that’s it. Delete the apps that make you sad. Unsubscribe from the drama. Stop clicking and it will stop feeding. It is entirely catered to you. Good job standing your ground and declaring that you don’t care. Now show me. Get out there and delete the bullshit social medias. Retrain the algorithms of the good apps to be fun. You can do it
It is neither wrong to care or not to care, but if you care so much about stuff outside of your control and you end up paralyzed, unable to function in your own life. This is often a good initial approach. This is exactly what I did when I stopped following any news or current events.
After a while, I started caring again, but I cared for myself first and foremost now before anyone else.
You can’t help people put on their air masks if you’re passed out because you didn’t put on your own.
Your not caring is by design, apathy is the end goal.
Sounds like you feel guilty and resentful of others feeling empowered to do something about their reality!
Did you know you can:
A: Get off social media and not consume that shit-social media consumption is an active choice
B: Choose to engage with giving a fuck about reality instead of following the herd and embracing the toxic hyperindividualist nihilism that’s currently destroying our society and planet.
C: Post this on a sub actually for angry edgelord rants
D: Just stand outside in public with a sign that says “please fight me I need attention” if you must engage in negative attention seeking
Seriously though dude, the world is fucked because of people like you who cynically assume everyone is insincere to justify your refusal to be an active agent in your own reality. Toxic individualism is the name of the game. Be that way if you want, but for fucks sake don’t think you’re a special snowflake who’s somehow above the rest of us because you’re too scared to admit you care about anybody or anything.
Vulnerability is a strength most people aren’t capable of-which is why we see so much of this performative edgelord nonsense. Grow up.
If you are feeling this its a sign to log off from Social Media, focus on your life, what you have, what you can do and whats around you. You’ll realize how much different real life is despite what people say otherwise.
For someone who doesn’t care you care a lot
is this you Cody?
Maybe it’s because you feel unable to make a difference. But you can — in the immediate small world around you. Not everyone is able to focus on everything. Nor do we have all the skills needed to make the world a better place. But we all have something to offer in some way. Do the good you can.
Long post for someone who doesn’t care.
It’s funny how people in the comments completely miss the point. This isn’t about your flatearther uncle from Alabama with 3 years of education in a church school who has a collection of guns and doesn’t care about “fucking libs”. It is about how activism grew into unhealthy obsession with trying to frame everyone as a victim and dictating that other people must feel bad about every single issue. Add to that how every single peace of news is sensationalized nowadays and it is a mystery to me why depression rates aren’t growing faster.
r/rant + r/vent
Oh goodness. Just put the phone down and go outside.
i think not caring about things is why things are so bad in this world. you should care. it is your responsibility to care, as a human being.
you sound like someone in 1930s germany. simply didnt care.
Caring is like praying. Useless.
Good for you??
Log off man
Well put. I don’t care either.
Tbh, I don’t really care either.
I don’t pretend to, though.