For a long time, “self improvement” felt like a fight.
I was angry at the system.
At hookup culture.
At porn.
At social media.
At the people numbing themselves.
At the people pretending to be deep.
At literally everything that felt fake.
I thought being awake meant being furious.
But honestly?
That gets exhausting.
And somewhere along the way, something shifted:
I stopped trying to hate everything into healing,
and just started building the life i actually want.
I don’t scroll.
I don’t chase.
I don’t explain.
I just live clean, love deep, and laugh at the absurdity of it all.
I still see what’s broken.
But i’m not carrying it anymore.
The hardest part was letting go of all I knew and I’m still in that process
and weirdly, life’s gotten way more fun since then.
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Sometimes I just laugh. I’m a silly human, with silly problems. We take everything too seriously and end up missing the fun.
I’m kind of going through this also… how did you learn to let go of the weight?
Accept that not everything can be fixed. Focus on what you can control- your thoughts, action and reaction.
Curate your surroundings to foster positivity and growth .
Spend time doing things that genuinely bring you joy- hobbies, creative pursuits or volunteer work.
Build a supportive community of like-minded individuals who inspire and uplift you. Engage in conversations that promote growth rather than division.
Reminds me about the “Circle of Influence”. Look it up!
Returning to an old-fashioned behaviour is good therapy too. It doesn’t mean you need to restrain yourself completely from social media. I scroll through social media mimicking a mindset from the previous generation reading the newspaper on a Sunday. “Let’s what’s happening”. No posting, no commenting, no discussion, no debates. Just getting updated and maybe sharing it in person with partner/family/close friends. No online engagement though.
Or one can just uninstall all those apps and reject social media entirely, I’ve heard people mentioning it works as well, although for me that would probably make me feel left out.
Do what’s best for you, the world will keep sucking and there’s very little you can do about it.
Oh boy, how much can I relate!
I think I often may come across as hateful and beligerent and yes, the hate is there but ultimately it is driven by my sensitivity. I get angry (and you don’t want to test me when I’m angry) because deep down there is a guy that cares, who does give a shit.
“You can’t carpet the world but you can wear slippers” is what I try to live by.
You have to achieve some level of healthy(!) cynicism and detachment if you don’t want to go nuts.
That’s beautiful. I’m glad there is people out there winning
Thanks for sharing. This is where I’m at, too – especially after the last election.
At some point you understand that ‘raising concerns’ does absolutely nothing to solving the problems. That’s where woke movement went off the rail – all screaming how this and that should be done and SOMEONE needs to do it, but that ‘someone’ was never themselves.
Same with disliking this group or that group and pitting them against one another for clout. At some point you understand that there are different people around, all useful in one way or another, all with their negative sides too.
In the end what counts is you – either doing something genuinely useful and productive or not.
Thank you for sharing.