Hi I’m a 19 y/o girl and I’m having the worst anxiety of my life. I don’t trust anyone. I don’t talk to anyone and I don’t even give myself the luxury of thinking. The idea of having to sit down with my own thoughts is so terrifying that I’d rather work myself to the grave then have to consider how I actually feel. I genuinely don’t know what’s happening to me because even if I’m sad I don’t cry and if I’m angry I don’t yell….i just feel lost and alone. I used to be very confident but now I shake and tremble at the idea of public speaking which is so so scary because that’s what I was good at. I feel like I’m losing myself to this endless abyss of nothingness. I used to love writing and I can’t do that anymore even music makes me feel fearful for no reason. I can’t listen to the artists I love anymore, I haven’t read in days even though I love reading. Everything feels pointless and I’m terrified. My mind feels blank… I don’t know if I’m happy or sad anymore.
I don’t know how I feel anymore
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Did you have anything tragic happen recently?
You’re letting fear steal your spark and that’s a dangerous trap. Fight back by forcing yourself to face those small moments of discomfort because reclaiming yourself starts with daring to feel again no matter how scary it seems.
You don’t have to fix everything at once. Try grounding yourself in small, physical things: drinking water, stepping outside
Hi!! Im 16 y/o girl and i used to be in you position from 12-15 years old so trust i understand!! I’ll list down the things i did so its clearer for you!
Journal your thoughts (i used to think like wtf journal who even does that but it helped me SO much. Trust me, i used to have disorganised attachment style and journaling for a few months literally SAVED me.
-self reflect how you feel that day and you must must write down the ROOT cause! I think you’re spiralling and its a pattern that can be broken down.
-what happened today & what can i do to change the cause of events for the future
-very simple goals for tomorrow and how you are going to achieve it
Watch the wizard liz. Sometimes you just need a woman to scream at you and tell you to get your shit together.
Try to make an improvement in 1% of your life everyday. E.g wakeup earlier, brush your teeth longer. Just feel accomplished!
Make up an identity for yourself! Don’t make depression and anxiety YOU!! Treat life like a lucid dream. Write down who you wanna be and act like you are already that person! Identity = how you act and ur personality and mindset.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET!! I deserve the best and everyone is below me. When i was at my lowest that’s actually how i thought and that might be controversial but learn to put yourself above other people. But for me i had enough self awareness to build up self love for myself and have the biggest ego ever and then ALSO recognise that everyone is equal. You kinda just need to confuse yourself and love yourself insanely much above other people and then still have the mentality and humbleness when treating people. Might be unhealthy but thats how i became confident again!
I hope you get better 🙂 dms always open if you wanna talk!!
I can feel the weight of what you’re carrying and i want to say its okay to pause. When things feel too loud or too empty, try starting really small, doing just a little in a day. Never let the world steal your spark, life isn’t easy I know there are times when you feel you’re not strong but you can always try to be brave, about standing up for yourself I’m proud of you for doing that even if it didn’t go well. You did something brave. Let yourself heal, healing is never fast it takes time, its in tiny moments where you remind yourself you matter