I don’t know how to relax

There’s a lot going on with my personal life, family, health, business, etc.
Life is just so full, I don’t feel like I ever do enough.

My partner and I are in counseling, to try to learn what healthy relationships actually are.
We just try NOT to do all the things we saw in our parents.

Anyways, he likes to unwind at the end of the night with video games, wine, weed, and sex.

Meanwhile I feel like I hold the weight of everything all the time.

I don’t like alcohol much, it hurts my stomach and makes me unable to sleep.
I don’t feel much / good with weed either.
I’ve never had an orgasm, so sex is just ok, but leaves me kind of wound up too.

I feel like I’m just too high strung and I don’t have any idea of what to do about it