I 26/F have been with a guy 26/M for almost a year, and we’ve argued multiple times over the same issue—me not trusting him—because he’s gone behind my back and lied about speaking to other women. He even went as far as adding a woman on Snapchat and never told me about it until I came across the information myself. He then admitted that he added her, but claimed he doesn’t speak to her.
Whenever I confront him about all these times he’s been sneaky, he throws it back in my face that I still speak to certain men, when that isn’t the case. I’ve been very transparent and nothing but loyal. I’ve cut off everyone he had a problem with just so he can see that I’m all for him, but he doesn’t do the same.
I shouldn’t have to ask him to rid himself of all the women if he loves me like he says he does. Why does he keep being sneaky?
TL;DR just a 26 F looking for some advice on what you’d do
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It isn’t about whether or not he is speaking or adding other women on his social media. It’s whether or not he’s being honest about it. A year of your time isn’t so much when considering the length of a relationship and an investment.But it is more than enough time to establish trust and boundaries. Honestly, I had some issues with my client boyfriend when we first got together, but I could also saint that it was because I had not made my boundaries clear. It sounds like you’ve said what you’re comfortable with.And he’s choosing to do something beyond that comfort.Level, and then he is doubling down by lying. If it were me, I would leave. I know what i’m looking for, and i’m not looking to play games, and I know personally, i’m not polyamorous. I have no desire to share my partner. The lang would be a red flag. I would have one final conversation about it, and I would say that this is what I want in my relationship. You can’t really make anybody else do anything, but yeah, you can play boundaries down of what you’re willing to tolerate.