I used to think it was fun that my body could turn someone on or that they got enjoyment from seeing or touching my body.
My bf recently expressed frustration that he doesn’t know how to touch me anymore when it is so obvious that I don’t get pleasure from it. Or I’m just “tolerating” it rather than getting excited by it.
I reflected on it and I can understand why he is confused. I used to get a deep sense of approval and fulfillment from being seen as a sexual being by people I liked. I enjoyed being seen as attractive, to feeling desired. Now I just feel exhausted by it without an answer for why. And it isn’t just him. The thought of anyone I feel attraction to sexualizing me makes me feel something almost like disgust…
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Normally people have sex because it feels good physically as well as emotionally. If you aren’t getting any physical pleasure out of it that would make sex frustrating for both you and your partner.
You may be asexual, or there might be a physical or psychological reason you are unable to find pleasure in sex. I don’t know which, but I think it would be good if you looked into which it is.
There’s a difference between being gently touched, and caught off guard from behind while doing the dishes and having your boobs squeezed like a piece of fruit before given a hard jiggle and/or smack.
You didn’t say, but I have a feeling it’s the second option.
If so, your not alone.
Are you struggling with stress? Mental health? Physical health? Medication? My libido tanks when I am caught up with college or work. After I graduated a month ago I’ve been… very active with my partner