Been trying my best to stay afloat. Life is hard. I got into a fight with my mom (i’m 34) on our way to get a puppy. She smacked me in the mouth. And i called the cops. She filed a pfa. This was 2.5 weeks ago. Since that time; i got told in the hospital that my diagnosis may have been wrong(i may be autistic and finding out late in life). I found a job in sales. I’ve worked this one before and all i have to do is sell phones and be smart and sharp. And i’ve been living out of my car. Life living out of a car sucks. But i went from almost getting a puppy to being smacked in the face. To being homeless hoping someone has a place open. I don’t even know if i can live on my own. Life sucks.
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Reach out to your mom. Worst that can happen is she says fuck off.
Then systematically reach out to your support system. If you don’t have much of one, go to your local library and ask for help finding the local shelters, food banks, and social support.
Your mom sounds toxic. She should never have smacked you. You are 34 years old. That was retaliatory for calling the cops. If you have a job and can think for yourself she’s manipulating you and deliberating not giving you the tools to live by yourself. See if you can get into a program where you live with a mentor who helps you with day to day help. We have them in my state for autistic adults who may not be able to live alone but can function independently. Look into homeless shelters and domestic violence shelters. Do not contact your mother again even if the order gets dropped. Seek therapy to process her toxicity and set boundaries and cope with who she is as a person.
For the PFA, it means you did something, too. Life is hard. You can try contacting charities for help, they might be able to get you a counselor or therapist possibly. Having a car isn’t the worst thing when homeless.
You’re posting on here, online is a good resource for people to reach out to.
Whatever transpired, you have to honor the PFA. You can’t respond even if she reaches out to you, without breaking the law.
I can’t recommend enough reaching out to United Way for helpful resources.
This is a harsh life lesson. But, you can learn from it, and manage to move forward in a positive way.