I don’t really know what being loving is like and don’t know how to give it to other people, and thus don’t really have a desire to connect with others. Does this make me a bad person?

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I know that people have all sorts of definitions for what qualifies as love (kindness, making someone laugh, etc). But I’m talking about whatever that feeling/emotion is that seemingly most people besides me know what I’m talking about and know how to express to their friends or family. That emotion. I just don’t get/feel that. Never really have. I’m not some angst teen who hates everyone. I’m 29 and am generally just, if I had to put a word on it, apathetic. I don’t actively hurt people or wish for harm to come on others and don’t think everyone is out to get me. I’m just neutral.

Probably since I was a kid/pre-adolescent I’ve been this way. At most, I do feel a desire/attraction towards women but don’t really crave relationships. I crave control, more than anything but know I can’t always have that and wouldn’t want to control my potential girlfriend.

So what’s wrong with me? Do I need to change myself to better mesh with people? If so, why?

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  1. coral225 Avatar

    I mean, if it isn’t getting in the way of your life and you’re happy, then keep on keeping on. If you want to change or you find this apathy is destructive to your relationships, work, friendships, etc, I would go see a therapist.