I used to tell others how to move on from breakups, how to stay strong, how to find better love. Now I’m the one hurting, and none of those words help me anymore.
I miss someone who made me feel unseen. Who went silent, made me question everything, and then acted like nothing happened. I wasn’t asking for perfection — just presence. And somehow, I still miss him.
But what’s worse is… I don’t want to heal through “hope.” I don’t want to hear that I’ll find someone better. I don’t want to fall again. I don’t want to attach to anyone. I just want peace. I want to learn how to not get emotionally attached, how to stop craving love like it’s the only thing that makes me feel alive. Because it always ends in pain.
Has anyone ever felt this? How do I stop needing love? I’m tired. I just want stillness.
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He made you felt seen if it’s C and still does
Yes, until I figured out it was unhealed attachment trauma from childhood. Humans always need a connection but with insecure attachment, it comes at a prices. So you play all these games to avoid actual connection and it leaves you feeling empty, lonely and unseen. You’ll need to learn your blind spots and why you development them, then how to unwind from them to become more emotionally mature and understand secure attachment. It’s possible and so worth it!
Externalising love and making it dependant on other people is the product of not loving oneself sufficiently. Self love always comes first. If you truly learn to accept and love yourself with all your flaws, you will not need the external validation. And theres a law that states if you stop chasing things, they will naturally come to you