i F 24 cant tell if im asking for too much or the bare minimum from my M 24 boyfriend

I F24 and my boyfriend M24 have been together for 4 years & im so confused on if my needs are too much or not, my boyfriend works 5 days a week, for 8 hours and sometimes works for 4 days, im studying and taking 5-4 courses a day and also running a business, so we are very busy but when it comes to spending time with eachother i make sure that i leave my free time for us to spend together, talk, go out, or even staying in.. i would be the one that calls first or asks to go out or do any type of activity together because to me i care enough to know about his day and to talk and catch up because like any normal partner i would miss him if we dont talk the whole day. i realised recently that he never prioritizes me the way i do with him, i started feeling like to him its not a “need” to talk or spend time with me and he proved it many times even on his days off and when i expressed that to him he said that its because i dont work 8 hours a day and that i probably need a hobby.. when its not even that because im in the university for around 6 hours and i also have a business to run.
He would prioritize playing xbox over spending time with me and then calling it a “me time” which is fine we all need me times but this is just a small example of what he would prioritize over me. ive had to rethink everything many times even with the little things and wondering if he cares about me and for example why wouldnt he ask me about something thats been bothering me i wish he would do that atleast and check up on me but then he would give me that same “i work youre just too attached and need something to do” excuse
am i too attached & overreacting?

TLDR: My boyfriend isnt showing me the same amount of care and appreciation the way i do with him and im being told its because i have nothing to do compared to him