know the title sounds really bad, and thats probably because it is. Ive been seeing this guy for a few months, getting to know each other and its been very steady. Hes a gentleman and very sweet. The difference between me and him is difference in class though. Hes very well off and im not. Initially i thought it wouldn’t be a problem but todays conversation knocked me back a little. Im a very career oriented person, money is everything to me. After having struggled with it my whole life, i made sure id dedicate myself to living a comfortable life. We had briefly talked about our career plans before, he said hes choosing passion and following what he wants to do even if it doesnt pay well, meanwhile im choosing money over passion. Today i was talking about wanting to go to a certain swimming pool and said its too far away. He said just go with a taxi and i told him it was way too expensive for me. He said it was only 20 euros..and for some reason that made me really sad. He was in the same highschool as me, my parents worked really hard to put me in this private school..as a result i was surrounded by rich privileged children, ignorant and in a whole different world than mine. I had bitterness and distain for them, even though i knew it wasnt inherently their fault. When he said that to me today, i just got reminded that hes the same type of person i felt resentment and envy over. I told him hed never understand me and he tried making lightly of it and joking about the situation. I feel so odd, so embarrassed again. What do i do? Will i really never be able to understand someone from such a different world than me? Am i being too prejudice?
Tldr: Guy ive been taking to is well off while im not. I feel like he’ll never understand the struggle and obsession i have with making money, while he chooses his passions over money and i do the opposite. Im not sure what to do.
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You seem to be too much in your own head imo
I don’t think you are wrong for feeling this, but then again I am a Working class Marxist-Leninist, so I am biased against rich people.
However, it is good that he is sweet and a gentleman, so try to think about that. You can also have a talk with him. Understanding goes both ways, and he needs to understand that you are working class, and that life for us working class folk isn’t easy. We need to know the value of money and be frugal, bc we have no other choice. He needs to understand this. It is also a potential for worry that he wants to aim for his passion, even if that wont pay much. Is he counting on his parents bailing him out economicaly?