I’m 18(f) and my boyfriend (19) we’ve been dating for almost two years, and we’ve known each other since 5years.
We’re long-distance too so at the beginning of our relationship, whenever he’d try to flirt or sext with me, I’d pull back because I was shy and had no idea how to sext or talk like that. Slowly, over time, I started becoming more comfortable with him, especially because this is my first time in a long-distance relationship. And now it’s fun and I enjoy doing it with him.
Recently, I wanted to send him something freaky. I was trying different poses and looking for inspiration but couldn’t find anything that felt right. I was on VC with him, and he was telling me how he’d like me to pose and that was totally fine until he asked if he could send me something as “inspo.”
At first, I was like, “Wtf no I’ll find it on my own.” But then I got curious and told him to send it. Before sending, he told me he loves me, loves how I look, and wouldn’t change a single thing about me or my body. He also said he’s not comparing me to her or asking me to be like her it’s just someone he used to follow a long time ago. She posts photos, does cosplay, and sometimes revealing stuff. That’s all.
He even asked me if it was a red flag that he suggested this, and honestly… I still don’t know. I know he loves me. I can feel it in the way he talks, looks at me through the screen, and when we meet. He’s always obsessed with how I look and makes me feel seen and loved. And I need to emphasize the fact that he’s the most sweetest person I’ve ever known I’ve always been insecure about my body and not once he have made a comment on that and if anything he encourage me to work towards my goals and have helped me make feel better about myself
But still… something about it felt off. I don’t know if it’s because the girl is an influencer or if it’s just my insecurity but it’s been bothering me a little inside.
I told my friend and she immediately said I was stupid for not putting up a fight, blocking him, and asking why he remembers her at all.
I don’t know how to deal with this. I love him so much. We’ve been through so much. I’ve never doubted him before. He’s never done anything like this.
But this weird feeling I can’t shake it off.
How do I bring this up again if it’s still bothering me a little inside?
He asked me multiple times that day how I felt and if it was weird and I just kept saying “no, it’s fine.”
But maybe… it’s not.
TL;DR:
My boyfriend (M18) and I (F18) are in a long-distance relationship. I was trying to send him something sexy and he asked if he could show me a pic from another girl’s IG (someone he used to follow) as inspo. He reassured me that he loves the way I look and isn’t comparing me at all. He even asked if it was a red flag himself.
I didn’t feel like he had bad intentions, but it still left me feeling weird inside — even though I told him it was fine. Now it’s bothering me a bit. How do I bring this up again without seeming dramatic?
Comments
You’re very young. The world is very very large, with tons of ideas and people and bodies and EVERYTHING. When you’re older you won’t care what other people are like, or where you get ideas from.