I (22 F) have been dating my boyfriend (24 M) for almost 9 months now. At the beginning we would have sex almost everyday, multiple times a day. Soon my schedule got extremely busy and I honestly don’t have that high of a sex drive. I have high anxiety and depression (I tried to end my life a couple months before we met) so I am on antidepressants and meds for ADHD. Slowly I started not wanting to have sex as much, but I could see he was getting frustrated so I forced myself to have sex with him when he wanted it. I thought I was always the problem because he makes me seem like I hate him and will never want to have sex with him again. We talk about this almost 3x a month if not more. We just had a conversation how I am not his toy, as I cannot be grabbed whenever he feels like it because I am his girlfriend, including grabbing my butt and boobs always, grabbing me to kiss me and getting mad when I don’t want to kiss him. Every time he wants to have sex he asks me if I want to and when I say no, he gets mad and basically says that I don’t try to get myself horny any more and it’s always a no. I love him so very much and I am so attracted to him, but I just don’t like to have sex a lot. This is an argument that is always brought up and he always, consistently, talks about sex and how my body. I know he loves me, but sometimes I truly believe if I didn’t have sex with him for a month+ he will leave me.
TL;DR: OP (22F) has been dating her boyfriend (24M) for ~9 months. They used to have sex a lot, but her mental health, meds, and naturally low sex drive mean she doesn’t want sex as often. She feels pressured to have sex anyway because he gets frustrated and makes her feel guilty when she says no. He often grabs her or initiates physical contact even when she’s not in the mood, and they argue about it a lot. She loves him but worries he’d leave her if they didn’t have sex for a while.