TL;DR: I am falling for a woman who is my dance instructor, who is also 10 years, my junior, even though I have historically been attracted to men and identify as heterosexual. Looking for input on what to do with these feelings…
I identify as a heterosexual woman but a very curious thing is happening in my life. In April of this year I (F33) came across this woman (F23) in my dance for the first time and she felt like a long lost friend. I remember trying to joke with her but she was a little reserved so I thought ‘oh maybe she’s not into making new friends.’
A few weeks passed and she was a sub for one of these classes and we finally had the chance to talk after class and I realized she was a complete sweetie so my initial assumption was wrong— shes just a very peaceful, down to earth, shy human. A few more weeks passed and she started teaching at this facility where I take classes very regularly and I was excited to take her classes as her dance style really resonates with me and I have been eager to refine my skills.
From the first dance class she led as the instructor, it was almost like a flower blooming in slow motion— i started realizing how wrong I was about her; she had so many qualities that were unbelievably attractive to me and I became flooded with the feelings I typically have for men for this beautiful woman this woman who is 10 years my junior and my dance instructor.
In our conversations I’ve come to learn that she has a partner that is crazy about and would most likely want to marry.
Should I tell her how I feel about her or just enjoy working/collaborating with her on dance activities?