I just posted here a few days ago but I have to again because i have had the WORST day and I think the world actually hates me
So I started going to the gym like mid December last year after a LONG time of contemplation (because I have crazyyyy anxiety) and I finally started it and I’ve been consistent till now but after today I think I’ve had enough, I started going to the gym originally because I’m literally a 6”3 girlie and I don’t wanna just be lanky like I’ve always been, so I’ve been trying to put some weight and muscle on and I’m actually seeing a LITTLE bit of a difference, obviously it’s not easy because I’m tall as fuck but I’m enjoying it
However like I said today was the worst, being tall I have to adjust everything to accustom my height (as much as possible), and our gym benches you can adjust obviously how flat or how angled it is and then you have to click it into place, so I grabbed my weights, adjusted my bench set everything up thinking I’d clicked everything in place, news flash, I did not, so when I sat on this bench especially with an added like 20kg in dumbbells safe to say I had a nasty fall right on my literal ass, the bench fell I fell my weights fell, everything fell and it was loud, and I also injured myself to fuck
My gym is literally full of gym bros and regulars and literally everyone saw me, I mean a lot of the guys were nice they helped me up and stuff, but I am genuinely so mortified I see these people every other day and now all I’m gonna be known for is falling on my ass bro 😭 I literally thanked everyone who helped me up and I went to my locker grabbed my stuff and I ran out of that gym with haste, I feel like I can never step foot in the gym again, but that’s the only gym near me and I don’t wanna stop going cuz I’m just starting to enjoy it
I honestly don’t know what to do, call me childish but I literally went home and cried for like 20 minutes before writing this, I’m just literally so anxiety ridden and this is the last thing I needed to ever happen to me, I kinda feel like I should just give up forever I’m just so embarrassed and upset and it’s just the worst
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I’m going to be honest, no one really cares. It sounds mean but in reality no one is going to think less of you because of an accidental fall. In a little while everyone will probably forget it ever happened.
Dude.. don’t let it stop you. Most of the people probably found it funny and it’s something you can use to break the ice. If you enjoy working out, keep doing it.
Your worries are understandable but there is absolutely no problem other than your temporary physical and mental pain. Gym bros are one of the nicest and most supportive subset of people.
It might help to know that a lot of those folks who saw you fall on your ass have embarrassing stories of their own. Almost all of us do. Eventually embarrassment fades and life goes on.
I once dropped the plates on a machine because I wasn’t paying attention and made a clapping, thunderous noise. I thought I caught my hand in them and I yelped so loudly and shrilly that I’m sure people around me thought I had killed a dog. I didn’t catch my hand, I was physically fine, but I died inside.
The only thing that kept me from fleeing into the woods was the knowledge that my friend and workout buddy had very obviously sharted himself while lifting about a month before.
If he could still show his face, so could I.
So can you.
No one cares. I’ve seen similar things happen at the gym, people might look, laugh, or stare but it is all good. Just keep going. If you want to take a week break that’s fine but one embarrassing moment shouldn’t stop you from improving your body
This is embarrassing, but many people have had this or something like it happen to them. Trust me, you will not be judged as harshly as you think you will. The friendly people who helped you up will not think bad of you. There will be a couple of jerks who may think stuff, but F them.
Hey, tbh. Gym folks aren’t as mean as social media may portray. I promise you. I know it’s different when you have severe anxiety but they will genuinely not hold it against you, nor remember. I tore my Achilles 3 weeks ago. In front of my maybe 10 people. Needed help being escorted to my car by literal strangers and since then people I’ve never even seen in the gym before are coming up to me and wishing me good luck. Give it another try. Some may even offer to help you if they recognize you and ask if you’re feeling better
Dude, we don’t give a shit. I’ve literally had to have someone come to the bench and rescue me from getting crushed as a grown ass man. Shit happens. We’re all there because we’re trying to better ourselves. And contrary to popular opinion, I think the gym is one of the least judgmental places out there.
You’re doing a great job, keep kicking ass!
Feel your embarrassment. Relive the story again in your head and let mortification come up and feel it, just let it be there. Resist the urge to cringe and twist up, just feel what embarrassment feels like and keep feeling it, tell yourself it’s okay to feel this feeling, until it starts to dissipate. It really shouldn’t hang on that long and if it does, surrender a little bit more to it.
For some reason I’ve had so many experiences of mortification in my life and this is really the only answer. You will muster the courage to go back to your regularly scheduled programming and when you go, just go in like natural. But first things first, let yourself be with this emotion. Otherwise, something more embarrassing will happen in due time until you face this feeling. That is my experience at least but u highly recommend because then you can be able to let it go and integrate the experience rather than letting the memory come up every once in a while, just to cringe to it.
Tough love : I’ve had this happen to me before. Just brush it off and get over it. No one really cares that much. They may have laughed in the moment – but in the end it’s not a big deal. Happens more than you think. Focus on building confidence and being able to laugh at your mistakes.
I am getting over a rare autoimmune illness called Guillane Barre Syndrome and suddenly couldn’t walk without assistance etc for 2-3 years
Part of my recovery, an important part was physical therapy and Im sweating doing the smallest things while i watch 20-year-old athletes from Stevens Tech jumping onto tables. And I fell a lot in there and outside even using a walker and was at the mercy of strangers because i literally had fallen abd couldn’t get up. Sometimes I went home and cried, but most of the time I was just thankful i didn’t break anything and make this condition worse.
People I learned, don’t care or even notice a lot. Especially nowadays with everyone’s head in their phones. The kind of gym you describe sounds like a serious gym and people are just into their work out I highly doubt when you come back they will think, thats the chick who fell, let’s see if she does it again! Nobody cares.
I understand the embarrassment of the situation, but chances are nobody else cares or even remembers. Most times people are more worried about your safety than judging you. But also generally, I think being too self conscious tends to veer into a form of narcissism, so I think it’s good to remind yourself that people generally care more about their own shit than whatever you’re doing. And anyone who judges you for a genuine accident likely should be worried about their own shit more.
No one cares that you fell (except to hope you’re ok). And so what if they WERE thinking about it and laughing at you? Like, actually think this through. What is the worst case scenario here??? Let’s say they think you are the stupidest person in the world. So???????? It doesn’t matter or have any actual real impact on your life. Like actually. What are you afraid is going to happen??
Totally understandable, this is a normal reaction, however you need to try to give zero fcks about it. If that doesnt work, just go to a different gym.
You fell on your ass.
Guess what its not the last time. Unless you live a life where you never try anything or stretch yourself in any way it will happen again.
The only thing to do is laugh at it. It was the definition of a pratfall.
and here is a little hint for you…your not the main character in other people’s lives they don’t care.
at most they might ask if you hurt yourself and then you just say “not bad, thanks for asking”
Anxiety here. Trust me when I say – it’s ok and normal to cry for 20 minutes. I would have too. You were embarrassed. That said, trust me again because no one is thinking about this except you and that’s totally normal too to think all thoughts are on us. I hope you go back tomorrow and rock it out. Put headphones on and look forward and keep your shoulders back. Be confident. Don’t give this outlet up. You totally got this!
No one cares. Everyone else has forgotten about that except for you. 🙂
you are at the gym for you, correct?
Be honest, do you even remember what happened a month ago?
Harden yourself to as best you can, emotionally, but get back to it. Think of how any harm to your self confidence and your physical health streak could be remedied by just going back and concentrating on yourself.
Girl I do this all the time lmao. like at least once a week the stupid seats go slap because I didn’t make sure they’re locked. At least you’ve never broken a $1200 mirror in the gym 😂😂
But seriously the best part about gym bros and gals is that they WANT to see you back in the next day. Like look at this chick, she’s not stopping. Daaaamn. Seriously though. No one is judging you. People have peed themselves, thrown up in the trash. I am glad to see them push through the mental set backs because those are just as hard as the physical ones. Get back in theerrrre !!
Girl I get it, but honestly no one cared about if you did something embarrassing. They cared if you were hurt. That’s it.
As someone who used to have a lot of anxiety. I started laughing at myself for embarrassing things (which there are a lot because I’m clumsy) even if my anxiety was high af. It helped reframe my mindset.
Literally no one cares. Go to the gym and keep working on yourself. Get out of your head and focus on your goals.