I’m 29, female, and bisexual. I haven’t really been in the dating scene much because I’ve always focused on work and hanging out with friends when I had the chance. But lately, I’ve really wanted to start dating seriously.
Here’s the issue: dating has been rough. I’ve dated women before and had some genuinely good dates, but something always felt like it was missing. When I try dating men, it’s even worse—I can’t even seem to get a first date. I’ll match, maybe have some light conversation, but it never leads anywhere.
It’s frustrating and honestly starting to make me feel like maybe I’m the problem. Or maybe dating just isn’t for me. I want to meet someone, but I’m tired of the disappointment before anything even begins.
Am I doing something wrong? Is this just a normal phase? Has anyone else felt this way?
(When I meant something missing I meant like a spark or something like I fully did see them as a partner/ girlfriend I just see them as a friend and I have had conversations with them about that.)
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I’m 29, female, and bisexual. I haven’t really been in the dating scene much because I’ve always focused on work and hanging out with friends when I had the chance. But lately, I’ve really wanted to start dating seriously.
Here’s the issue: dating has been rough. I’ve dated women before and had some genuinely good dates, but something always felt like it was missing. When I try dating men, it’s even worse—I can’t even seem to get a first date. I’ll match, maybe have some light conversation, but it never leads anywhere.
It’s frustrating and honestly starting to make me feel like maybe I’m the problem. Or maybe dating just isn’t for me. I want to meet someone, but I’m tired of the disappointment before anything even begins.
Am I doing something wrong? Is this just a normal phase? Has anyone else felt this way?
(When I meant something missing I meant like a spark or something like I fully did see them as a partner/ girlfriend I just see them as a friend and I have had conversations with them about that.)
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
You need to have single friends who go out and socialize. Don’t let the apps discourage you it is not a great option for most people.
It’s what they call endless searching, dear creepy cherry.
How u still bisexual at your big age
I feel exactly like you and I’m exactly the same age and everything too. Best luck is going out and meeting people but… that’s hit or miss as well. Just know I empathize