I flew to another country for a 10 day fantasy trip – but now I’m alone in a hotel

I (27F) am from the UK, last year I met a man (45M) in Greece where I did an internship at a company for 3 months – he was the co-ordinator. I went back again to visit in October for a few days and since then we had been messaging and clearly had mutual attraction.

I accepted a position at another company in Greece for 6 months for this summer, and we decided I would come out 10 days earlier to stay with him before leaving for my new job. But, without being seen by anybody else at the company he works for to avoid gossip and damaging reputations etc.

He talked so much about what we would do when I was here. Going out for dinner, drinks, coffee, on his motorbike, to a spa, to a hotel in the mountains, to different cities. He said he would buy me some lingerie and I bought some myself, I got waxed, I brought toys, I bought a bikini he said he wanted me to wear at the spa. I had been really excited for this trip for months. The whole thing was just going to be 10 days of chilling out and having fun.

However, as soon as I arrived he said he had something to tell me. He has erectile dysfunction and refuses to take viagra due to the side effects interfering with his recovery from a recent surgery. He said he didn’t want to tell me about it because he was afraid I wouldn’t come – so he took the choice away from me. I was shocked and angry but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and continue as planned anyway. I shouldn’t have.

He was so distant all the time, working late every night so we didn’t have time to do anything we planned. When he got home he just watched sport on tv or told me to watch something whilst he went on his phone, continued working, or did some other chores around the house etc. No quality time whatsoever. Then he worked the whole weekend we were supposed to have together. We were intimate at night when we shared a bed, but it was nothing like what I had imagined because of his problem. I tried to do what made him comfortable but he always acted so ashamed and regretful afterwards. It was so hard for me to navigate.

The final straw was on the 6th night he worked until 9:30 when we were supposed to go to a hotel together with a jacuzzi in the room, which I had bought the bikini he wanted for etc. And been looking forward to. So he cancelled it, rearranged it for 2 days later and said he couldn’t come, but I should go alone because he was going to have friends round at his and it would be awkward if I was there because they don’t speak English.

The next morning I told him I was booking a hotel for the rest of my time here. And all he said was “I have nothing to apologise for, this is my life. You aren’t the first girl to do this and you won’t be the last. I’ll see you again” and then he left for work.

So here i am, alone in a hotel in Greece until I can travel to my new job. Traumatised, hurting, and feeling stupid, manipulated and used. Mourning the loss of what could have been, realising now that he just wanted me there to prove he could get me and massage his ego.

Tldr; Went to Greece for a fantasy 10 day fling. Instead was misled, ignored, and rejected. Abandoned ship for a solo stay in a hotel instead.