The title is basically it, but it’s not the first time. The first time I caught him was after I went through something very traumatic. With the first times was trying to sleep a couple girls, and when I confronted him on everything he said he had no intentions of actually sleeping with them. He told me he just wanted to talk to someone, cause he didn’t want to burden me with his problems(?).
Anyways, I caught him a few days ago surprisingly talking to quite a few other women. It wasn’t anything bad like the first time, but it still made my heart sink to my stomach. Right now, I’m working on getting my finances set up to leave. But I’m just seeing if anyone has any advice here. My plan is just to leave quietly, but idk.
There’s a lot more to this, but this is just the general issue.
Edit: He doesnt know that I know.
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What do you mean “idk”?
I mean, I know that means “I don’t know” but what do you not know?
You planning to leave or not?
Marry him
He didn’t want to burden you so he burdened random girls instead? Girl just leave and let him trauma dump on Tinder.
Actively taking steps in order to cheat is already cheating. That’s how I see it. He is clearly out of line here.
Yes, get your finances in order and fuck off. If you feel like you might fall victim to his “baby, I’ll change’ shit that’s guaranteed to come, then it’s better to cut him off and leave quietly. Otherwise, give yourself closure by laying it out to him and leave with your head up hihg.
Please go to your doctor. You need to be checked for STI’s. He’s already cheated and is trying to cheat again.
You deserve better.
I agree get your finances secured. It’s up to you how you want to break up. if you confront him, make sure you and your friends discuss the safest way for you to leave him.
Done= plan and run!
Just talking to women isn’t a bad thing. What does your feeling say, is there more going on? I always know myself whether there is more or not? Most of the time your own feeling is right and it’s better to leave now before it gets even more difficult
Make sure to check yourself out sexual health wise and get out ASAP.
Yes get your finances in order and leave him. Stop having sex with him and get checked for everything. After that take some time to heal and don’t jump into another relationship for a while.
Same situation from the other side. Was in an ltr and never hung out with another woman (who wasn’t a previous friend or family member) in a decade. I did the same bc my gf was emotionally and physically unavailable and wanted to talk to someone. Once I got an emotional connection, there was no looking back and I cheated on her. I have many regrets and never thought I would do that.
He’s just going to learn to cover his tracks better. Find someone worthy of your time.
Leave. This is cheating.
OK devils advocate here, but Iv been in a happy relationship for the last 10 year, and some of my best friends are females. I have never cheated and hopefully never will. So long the content of the convocation were platonic I think it’s fine. Don’t leave a good man becuase of a female friend he wasn’t trying to fuck. If I was you I would talk to him and ask him a. If it is indeed platonic b.whatbare the comvos normally about? And c. If he says he’s talking to them about stuff he doesn’t feel Comfortable talking to you about try and understand what those subjects are. Most times if i want advice on my relationship I would talk to a female friend (obviously without making my gf look like a cunt) it does seem that there is a communication issue between you to and that is worth looking in to.
Get out, get tested, get somebody better.
Guy’s getting emotional support from a string of women, one of them will develop into more.
I hope that you’re not talking to men if you want to leave him because he’s talking to women. You even said that there’s nothing in it this time. He is an idiot for talking sexually with them in the past, but how was it? Straight out like there will be sexual activity happening or making dirty naughty jokes and innocent banter. I’ve always made jokes with other women but nothing serious and none of it was secret either. It’s just that’s the sorta guy I am, my friends and partners would say if I wasn’t talking like I do and being different, that’s when they’ll think something is going on
Yes advice Run.