So, it’s exactly as the title says. I was raised for eight years by my ‘mum’ who turned ur to be my biological sister. I say ‘raised’ but I should really be using the term ‘dragged up’.
I found out my mum was actually my sister, AMA
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So, it’s exactly as the title says. I was raised for eight years by my ‘mum’ who turned ur to be my biological sister. I say ‘raised’ but I should really be using the term ‘dragged up’.
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How did you find this out?
what’s the age gap between you and your sister?
Is your sister much older than you? Were your parents older when they had you?
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It’s more common than you think. Young pregnancies have always been taboo and that’s what they did to keep up appearances.
How did you find out?
I was born in Lansing MI, in the early 50’s. Pre bc. Back then, no respectable woman got pregnant out of wedlock. It just wasn’t done.
If a young woman/girl did get pregnant, she was usually sent to live with a distant relative.
When she returned, life continued. The baby was passed off as belonging to aunt, or cousin, or such.
My mom was adopted in this manner. As was her first born, who was sent to be raised by someone else.
If it got out, your life was completely, literally destroyed. People knew, of course, but in polite company, it just wasn’t talked about.
usually it’s the other way around
Why did your birth mom do this?
Why did your sister raise you? Why not your birth parents?
what’s the logic or reason for the lie? We’re both “grandparents” in your life until you learned news?
How is your relationship with your sister? From some of your comments I get the impression that you do not get along with her but it’s hard to tell. Also what did you mean by dragged up instead of raised?
What was the reason for the lie? I would get it if the scenario was reversed (that your mother was who you were told was your sister). But I can’t think of a reason why your sister would have been put in a position to pretend to be your mother.
Have you watched andi Mack on Disney+? I’m surprised no comments have mentioned it. The plot of the show is literally the opposite of this.
You ever watch the Disney show Andi Mack? You enjoy it if you did?
Dragged up?
Whyyyyy
Are you secretly Jack Nicholson?
How old are you now and how is your life? Have you been about to maintain healthy relationships? Do you have attachment issues?
How do you handle life now and how are you doing?
Did you have any “allies” or supportive people growing up? Are you close with any of your family at this point or no.
How has this affected your attachment style and ability to bond to others?
Are you still living with your sister?
Are you irish
Is your hair blue?
Are you currently receiving or have you received mental health support? This kind of untreated trauma seems like it could easily turn into addiction, self harm or worse. I hope you are recovering or were able to recover from this to have a happy, healthy adulthood. No child deserves anything like what you’ve described. None of it was your fault. 🫶🏻
So sorry to hear that you had to endure all of this trauma! Some people really don’t deserve to have kids, and there was really no reason for all that abuse ! How old are you know ? Also, how’s life for you ?
I really hope you could turn this around.