I was scrolling through a dating app and came across a guy whose Instagram was connected to his profile. Looking through his posts, I saw tons of photos with this girl and really sweet captions about her. I checked her social media too and they’re definitely together. Part of me wants to let her know since I’d want someone to tell me if my boyfriend was on dating apps, but I’m also wondering if I should just stay out of it since it’s not really my situation to get involved in.
I found this guy has a girlfriend, but he’s on a dating app… Do I tell her?
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You should tell her, its up to her to believe you but since you dont have any personal attachments to him or her I would think its better to just do the right thing, you are not loosing anything by doing the right thind.
You don’t know their relationship. Maybe they’re poly, maybe not. But it’s not really your business.
Take a pic and send it to her. He doesn’t seem to smart.
If you feel like you have to say something, you could send her an anonymous message with a screenshot of the dating profile. That way you’re giving her the info without inserting yourself into the situation directly
You’re welcome to message her but include that you’re not sure if they’re in an open relationship or anything, just saw his socials connected to his dating profile and are doing what you’d want done for you.
Most people in an open relationship or who are poly mention that in their profile. Bear in mind that it’s more likely that they just broke up and he’s hopped on the apps immediately. So you might just be telling his recent ex that he’s back on the market.
You should tell her. I would create an anonymous IG profile so you don’t get involved, and send her screenshots.
I would hate it if my partner was cheating on my so publicly and nobody told me.
If it were me, I’d take a screenshot of his dating profile and send it directly to her. That way she has the information and can decide for herself what to do
If it were me, I’d want a heads-up. Send her the receipts and let her decide what to do with it.
If it were me, I’d want a heads-up. Send her the receipts and let her decide what to do with it.
wait wait wait.
so his instagram is connected to his profile? so isnt it safe to assume if you can easily access it, anyone else who would match with him could also see it?
maybe they just broke up extremely recently. maybe he hasn’t gotten around to deleting the pictures. regardless, if his instagram is connected to his dating profile its not like hes hiding it. benefit of the doubt but if i were cheating i wouldn’t make it so obvious, most people arent gonna want to do anything with a cheater.
just dont understand the mentality here of “omg hes on a dating app and has a girl in a lot of his instagram posts, i should tell her and everyone in the whole world!” like….my first question if i matched with someone would be “hey bud, whats going on there?”.
Dude, IMO, if it were me, I’d wanna know. It’s a tough spot but honesty usually wins out in the end. Yeah, you’ll stir the pot but better the truth hurts now than a lie later, ya know? But remember, ain’t nobody gotta play detective Holmes here. Be upfront, be kind and not judgmental. 💯👍
yeah, tell her. you know, just in case! it’s better for all to be working with the facts
mind your own business! you know nothing about their relationship.
Always expose infidelity. Include screenshots.
Mind your own business. You have no idea what the dynamic of this relationship is.
Just forget about it, it has nothing to do with you. Everyone telling you to say something lives in a fictional fairy tale world. Let him get caught on his own.
If it were me, I’d want to know. Just send her the screenshot and dip, no need to be messy about it.
If it were me, I’d want to know. Just send her the screenshot and dip, no need to be messy about it.
None of your business.
They probably just broke up and you’re going to rub salt in the wound of this poor girl. No idea why you would step in here unless you have another motive that you left out of the original post…
Absolutely stay away. I appreciate why you want to get involved, but you will become a part of any fallout. You don’t know these people, just move on.
PLEASE TELL HER at least BECSUSE no one told me and I would’ve been saved from everything if they had
Staying out of it sounds like a great idea. This has “no good deed goes unpunished” written all over it.