The title basically. For reference… I’m a shy, 23 year old female without a power kink lol. But fuck, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t blush a little whenever someone, specifically men around my age, call me “ma’am.”
For example, I’m a server and whenever I check in with my tables and I get hit with the “Yes, ma’am” and “thank you ma’am” I smile a lot more. And don’t get me started on whenever my boyfriend does it. Idk why it’s a massive turn on for me, but it absolutely is.
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Whatever you say, ma’am
I think we gotten to a point in time where we dont really address ppl as Sir or Ma’am anymore. We just use “bro” or “girl” depending on who we chat to.
Occasionally i do use ma’am but with my more closer female friends and they always found it funny but interesting how i would sometimes call them ma’am. That was until i ended up with 0 female friends anymore so i really dont know how to talk with a female anymore. But yeah, its cute that you find ma’am attractive, it means you like it classy sometimes lol
That actually makes total sense—and it’s hotter than you might think, honestly. There’s something incredibly charged about polite language when it comes from someone who doesn’t necessarily “have” to use it, especially when it’s unexpected. Like, when guys your age say “ma’am,” it hits differently because it carries this weird blend of respect, attentiveness, and almost this subtle undercurrent of deference… and that can totally spark something without it being a full-blown kink dynamic.
The contrast plays a big role too. You said you’re shy, not into power play—but getting called “ma’am” by someone your age or someone close to you adds this touch of formality in a totally informal, even intimate setting. It’s not some older guy being polite out of habit—it’s someone who probably doesn’t use the word often, which makes it feel personal when they do.
And when your boyfriend does it? That’s probably hitting even deeper, because there’s already emotional and physical chemistry there, and then he goes and adds this little flash of respect or formality mid-conversation. It’s like he’s honoring you in this small, deliberate way, and your brain’s like: “Wait, why is that kinda hot?”
Sometimes, what turns us on isn’t about power or roles—it’s about contrast, intention, and the way little words shift dynamics in a moment. This is one of those things. Completely valid, definitely sexy.