So i took a pregnancy test and it showed a faint line because it was a faulty test (but it wasn’t going to expire till June 2026) so I freaked out. My hands were shaking and I felt dizzy. I am very young to have a child and I can’t tell my parents. I couldn’t tell any friends, gossip will spread. I could have gone alone to the market and gotten more pregnancy tests but i got so scared that i told my boyfriend even though i knew he would freak out.
And he did get scared understandably so we went together. After i got a new test and it turned out negative, he started saying on text that he will never ever have sex with me or even makeout with me.
I said okay.
He keeps repeating the thing and he is like, “I want peace of mind. Why did you do all this. Now since this relationship only has friendship left in it, if you want to you can breakup with me. I dont want to breakup but if you want you can”
And I dont know what to say. He is vehemently denying that he doesnt want to breakup and he got scared. But why is he saying that i can breakup with him.
Shouldnt i have asked for help. He wants peace of mind but what about me, if I have no one to turn to I can’t even turn to him because if he feels like his peace of mind is gone he will start talking about leaving me or saying you can leave the relationship.
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You didn’t do anything wrong. False positives can happen, and your fear was valid. His reaction says more about his emotional maturity than anything else. Communication and empathy are key if he can’t offer that, it’s worth rethinking the relationship
Why can’t he just use a condom & you on on a contraceptive pill? The chances of pregnancy with that level of protection is extremely low!
Your boyfriend is being very immature by trying to shift all the blame for this pregnancy scare onto you.
If men don’t want to get women pregnant, they should get a vasectomy. Then the man gets to make the decision for himself. Too many men put this burden onto their female partners and then cry when it doesn’t work out the way they wanted.
I wouldn’t want to sleep with him.
Leave him if he is going to act like that.
How can you trust him to stand by you had this been a real pregnancy? He seems young-minded and immature. I wouldn’t want to stay with anyone that acted the way he did.
I’m assuming you are in your teens since you didn’t/couldn’t tell anyone about the possibility of being pregnant. If you don’t want a teen pregnancy use contraception, easy as that. Sounds harsh but that’s the only other way, besides abstinence, to not get pregnant. As to your boyfriend’s reaction, I would break up with him. He is literally telling you he wants to break up but doesn’t want to do it himself for whatever reason.
God, people need to talk to their children about this stuff. There are realistically 3-4 days in a month when you can get pregnant. If you guys abstain during ovulation for super extra safety and use a condom you’re fine. He’s being immature and blaming you as if he had no part in this. If nothing, he showed you he cannot be reliable in stressful situations. The question is do you want a partner who reacts in this way?
Let him go.
Everything will work itself out
Sounds like an immature boy … you can do better
I’m guessing you’re both super young. Bf sounds terrified. Why don’t you both go together to a sexual health clinic to discuss with a professional the safest way to have sex and not get pregnant. Seems you both need time to deal with this huge scare thag happened.
He clearly didn’t handle the news well, sounds like it scared both of you. It’s a pretty big wakeup call to change how you’re doing things. Take this as a lesson on how babies are made ! Take proper precautions going forward, otherwise next time might be the real deal.
Tell your boyfriend to invest in condoms 💀
>Now since this relationship only has friendship left in it, if you want to you can breakup with me. I dont want to breakup but if you want you can”
Breakup with him.
Use protection, learn your lesson, leave him alone and just be a kid. You’ll have the rest of your life to have sex without fear. He’s a kid, you’re a kid- be that.
What a dipshit. Does he think you can just choose whether to get pregnant?
Geez, this guy is just a loser. He should be there for you, after all, you didn’t get into this on your own. You were both upset and worried. And only thing he cares about is his peace of mind?
I would break up. You deserve better, he doesn’t worth it.
Is he aware that he’s the only one that can choose to get someone pregnant with his sperm? How old are you guys? Maybe he needs a sex education class.
He sounds way too immature and a bit dysfunctional. It’s not fair for him to blame you for everything and then to also put everything on you in terms of your relationship status. If he wants to be in a relationship and sleep with you then he needs to grow up. Your intuition is right about how he reacted to all of this. I wouldn’t ignore it.
Where was his support for you? It seems like all he could think about was himself. If he doesn’t want to have his peace disturbed then he should be more careful cause babies are a lot.
He’s coming off like a guy that doesn’t want to take any responsibility for anything. It seems like he’s trying to get you to apologize for his actions and like he wants you to beg him to be with you again (both in a relationship but also sexually). He wants to be able to keep his hands clean and say “I told you we were just friends, that I didn’t want to sleep with you anymore, and that you should break up with me.”
He’s a coward in training. You deserve better.
You didn’t do anything wrong to him. But I think moving forward you should really consider if this is the kind of guy you want to be in a relationship with. You got really lucky this time, please don’t let it turn out differently next time.
(I just read what you said to others. I’m sorry that you’re not in a country where you can live freely. It’s not fair. I know that only makes it harder for you to let go and hope to find someone better but is this guy worth dying over? You said they’d kill you if they found out. Is he worth it when he’s treating you like this?)
He’s panicking. He’s saying you can breakup with him because he seems to think a relationship without sex is no relationship. That’s not true, but he seems to think it is, and many people would agree, he might even agree, but he’s not willing to be the bad guy and breakup with you. He’s being a coward…
If this is how he reacts, you 100% shouldn’t be having sex with him. He’s not mature enough to deal with any consequences, and he just proved to you that in a worst case scenario situation…. YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN. He will not be there to help you. He will freak out. I would bet he’d even accuse you of cheating just on the off chance you did because it’s easier than accepting any blame for the consequences. He panicked hard, and showed you who he is… BELIEVE HIM.
I’m gonna tell you what my mom told me about sex. Figure out your birth control and have a backup and never depend on your man to step up… If you don’t think you can rely on someone, then you shouldn’t let them into your body unless you’re 100% willing to deal with any and all consequences on your own, including potentially raising a child or getting an abortion, etc. Insist on a condom, but also get yourself some other form of contraception. If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to look at your parents and tell them you need to go to the doctor for birth control, or at least get them to get you to the doctor and talk to the doctor about it without them there. If you can’t do that, if you’re not brave enough to do that, you shouldn’t be having sex, because you cannot do it safely… and having sex when you can’t do it safely is really really stupid…
This isn’t a healthy relationship
You may want to get a third test. Just to ensure the second test wasn’t a false negative.
Contraception is a 2 way street. He wants out and is too cowardly to say it. Cut him loose. Nta
He’s an asshole, tell him to get lost.
I know Reddit is quick to the break up but but you should break up. Ultimately if you’re having sex there is a chance however small of getting pregnant. I know people on multiple kinds of birth control and still got pregnant. I know people who got fixed and still got pregnant. I know 40 year olds that thought they were through the woods home safe nope here comes a baby.
He’s not mature enough to be having sex. He thinks all the responsibility of keeping from getting pregnant is your responsibility. When your were worried about a false positive that happens he’s not oh maybe it’s to early to tell let’s wait to panic he’s a complete ah and blames you.
You SHOULD break up with him. He’s immature and unreliable and in a moment when you needed support, he was selfish and awful and all about himself. You deserve better.
He sounds like an arsehole. Why do you want to be with him?
Also out of interest did he use a condom and are you on the pill? Or did he “promise to pull out”?
Clearly he’s a piece of shit and you absolutely should break up with him.
He’s shown you his true colors. Believe him.
There’s literally no reason for him to be angry. And him “suggesting” that you break up with him means he actually doesn’t like you and doesn’t want to be with you, but he also doesn’t want to be the one to pull the trigger. It’s very manipulative. I would dump him. You got VERY lucky that you aren’t actually pregnant. Run fast. 🏃♀️💨
Dude JUST NOW realized that sex an make babies.
Are you sure you want to be involved with such a slow learner?
No matter if you stay with him or not, get on contraceptives AND always use condoms as well.
Sounds like you, two, need to have a discussion about Birth Control, his and yours.
To help you, here is the Planned Parenthood website, with the 18 options:
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control
If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to discuss & chose BC options.
Ofcourse you should’ve. He is as involved in this as you are. This made him lose his peace of mind, but what about yours? At the end of the day, you have to deal with all the consequences and scares. Least he could’ve done is pull his shit together and be there for you and helped you calmed down.
I’m not even sure how you could know for sure it was a false positive. You could have had a very early miscarriage.
It takes two to tango. He asks “why did you do all this” but he also made choices that lead to that outcome. I think he’s wanted to break up for a bit and is using this as an easy out.
That man don’t like youuuu.