I (15f) got harassed in public today. they yelled a transphobic slur at me and said I’d never be a real woman
I was born a girl. I’m not transgender. I just look masculine
Im not a pretty girl and I know that, but it makes life a whole lot harder when I’m harassed just for going outside
people straight up deny the fact that I was born a girl. this has happened before. they say ‘we can always tell🤓🤓🤓🤓’ I hate it because no, you cant, I’m not trans.
It reminds of the whole Imane Khelif thing when everyone ganged up on the poor girl and harassed her because she has masculine features. I look a lot like her, so It made me extremely upset to see that.
I wish I was more feminine looking.
I feel horrible for actual trans women because I know they have it a lot worse than me. I wish people weren’t so cruel.
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I am so sorry this happened to you. Anti-trans rhetoric harms cis people who present outside of “the norm” as well as trans and gender non conforming people. Hopefully things change soon, I just don’t understand how people can be so hateful to others.
Ah, his comment got deleted. Im sorry this happened to you.. ignore the hate comments. Starting to think some of these angry dudes must be gay the way they try to find any way they can to call someone a man and talk about dicks.
Take your coochie out and piss on them
You are perfect the way you are. Just remember their words are not a reflection of you or your worth, only their own ignorance and vileness. Fuck them
Hateful people like that are always going to find a reason to be hateful. You were just an easy target.
big hug
Girl as a trans person, I’m sorry. It’s literally nothing about you, and I’m sure you are beautiful. The best lesson that being trans has taught me has been to remember to not value how other people perceive me so much, and it took YEARS to learn. But at the end of the day, they can honestly just f off. Because who’s opinion is more important? A strangers or your own? As long as you respect yourself for who you are, others opinions can at worst inconvenience you. Why should I care about someone else respecting me? I respect MYSELF and I sleep a lot better at night because of it.
It’s wild how there’s so much hate against trans people today that they err on the side of “Let’s harass that person just in case they are trans”
It is hard for even non-trans, visibly queer people (like myself). That said, your problems are valid too, and I hope that you have access to healthcare and can get a therapist, because (not to be ominous) shit is about to get a lot worse, and you deserve sooooo much better than to both be treated like that, and to have to suffer it alone.
I know that it may seem counterintuitive, but I’d seek out a queer community for support and solidarity if I were you. We’re strong and resilient because we have to be, and we understand what you’re going through firsthand, and we can be a haven for non-conformity. On that note, don’t let people wear you down and convince you that your femininity isn’t enough, or that your lack of femininity as a cis woman isn’t beautiful. Being different is often what is most attractive about people in an adult context, and the actual overarching truth is that everything and everyone is attractive to someone (and it’s usually many more someones than you think). I don’t mean to lead you to believe the trite and usually false “it gets better” sentiment, but it gets different – and the way it gets different can be absolutely astoundingly beautiful if you are ready to receive it when it presents itself.
Do whatever you have to to be safe and happy, and balance those ideas very carefully, but I’d say because you’re not “conventionally attractive” it may behoove you to lean in and explore what being “nonconventional” means or can mean to you in the future. I used to lean into my cisness (AMAB presenting masculine) because it felt safer, because at least I was trying to do what everyone wanted me to, and since I stopped and embraced the authenticity of my nonconventional presentation as a nonbinary person, I’ve gravitated toward some other beautiful “nonconventional” people and carved out a niche that feels real and truly mine. And you can too.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. If you haven’t you should look up Ilona Maher.
She’s an Olympic Rugby player who got mocked for being too masculine. She then went on Dancing With the Stars and modeled for Sports Illustrated.
She loves her body and what it can do.
I find her so inspiring. She makes me want to love my body too.
You are beautiful. 15 is a tough age but it does get better with time.
I got called a young man once because a doctor couldn’t tell the difference. I politely corrected him and got a laugh out of it when he realized his mistake.
Unfortunately, not all people are as kind and willing to admit their mistakes like him. And unfortunately, people are too stupid to realize that they’re straight up wrong sometimes. Just forget about that interaction, their opinions don’t matter in your life.
It may hurt you now, but eventually you’ll get over it. Eventually. Sorry this happened 😔
As a trans person, that’s stupid. You can’t “always tell” if a person is trans and many of them pass pretty damn well (ex. Jazz Jennings, Idk how to spell her name). I’m sorry this happened to you. You being cis doesn’t really matter here. Nobody deserves to be harassed the way you did. Don’t let an asshole of a stranger get to you like that. I’m sure you look beautiful, inside and out.
Ughh people can be so cruel. This will pass hun. You’re young, and those people are fucking idiots.
I’m sorry that awful people make you wish you looked different. Fuck them, you should love yourself.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I had the same issues when I was around your age, different names since this was late 90s but coming from the same place.
This is one of the reason trans rights are human rights and affect everyone, even those who aren’t trans.
“Fuck you, bigot”
Learn it, yell it, confront them. Fuck bigots.
You are not alone. This has happened to me as well. Even worse I have a deep voice.
I accepted the fact long ago that I don’t look as feminine as most cisgendered women do. I have used this to my advantage by dressing more manly if I am on a road trip by myself for safety reasons.
It’s not so safe anymore, I suppose. But I refuse to change how I look in order to fit some stereotype of what a cisgendered female should look and act like.
Damn. And you’re just a kid.
I’m a big ol grumpy guy and I’d like to punch that guy in the face for you. I’m so sorry. Here’s a hug.
“I’m a 15yo girl, but even if I’m not, you’re a paedophile for wanting me to pull down my pants and show you. Paedophile! You sick child molster!”
You need to practise that in the mirror and be ready with it.