I got on my boyfriend’s case this morning and I feel bad. I think at first I was irritated that he left out cooked eggs from last night on the counter that I was to take to lunch. Then I saw a bag of treats he said he was gonna bring into his office MONTHS ago and didn’t. I reminded him and when he said “nah I’m not gonna take them” I got irritated that he left them sitting there that long if he had no intention to do so. We don’t have much room in our little condo and he’s always telling me that I keep too many things but he does the same thing. There was truth to how I felt for sure but I didn’t need to bring it up in the morning while we are getting ready for work. Am I a horrible girlfriend? I never snap at him and I’m always very patient but this morning for some reason I just felt annoyed
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Backup of the post’s body: I got on my boyfriend’s case this morning and I feel bad. I think at first I was irritated that he left out cooked eggs from last night on the counter that I was to take to lunch. Then I saw a bag of treats he said he was gonna bring into his office MONTHS ago and didn’t. I reminded him and when he said “nah I’m not gonna take them” I got irritated that he left them sitting there that long. We don’t have much room in our little condo and I feel like he’s always telling me that I keep too many things but he does the same thing. There was truth to how I felt for sure but I didn’t need to bring it up in the morning while we are getting ready for work. Am I a horrible girlfriend? I never snap at him and I’m always very patient but this morning for some reason I just felt annoyed
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So, you’re a girl
Tell him all of this
You’re not a terrible girlfriend. It seems like he has some double standards and weaponized incompetence. You have every right to be irritated if it’s been discussed several times. Just don’t let lashing out diminish how you feel about yourself. Everyone gets upset, especially when they feel unheard. Use it to further self-awareness about how you feel. By no means am I saying lashing out is a positive thing. But it should be acknowledged that you’re to a point where it’s happening and evaluate why and what will cause it to repeat.
You aren’t a terrible girlfriend you are human. I’d like to think I’m a super patient person but sometimes I snap, we all do I think. There are good days and bad days. No one is perfect.
he sounds annoying honestly and you didn’t really sound like you did anything disrespectful. he needs to be more cognizant that he is living with another person