I got my heart broken and I want to lose a lot of weight to get back at them. What should I do first?
I got my heart broken and I want to lose a lot of weight to get back at them. What should I do first?
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I got my heart broken and I want to lose a lot of weight to get back at them. What should I do first?
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replace revenge with self-respect. You can do this.
Not sure what you mean by first ???
Doing something to get back at someone is very negative. You don’t want them to keep affecting you, do you?
Do it for yourself. Positive attitude lead to happiness.
Before you actually take any steps to lose weight, take some photos of yourself, and keep them somewhere ‘out of sight’.
If you’re making gradual improvements to your own physique, it’s hard to notice the day-by-day changes.
Once you’ve been some time on your journey, and are getting down because you don’t seem to be ‘looking any better’ check in on those old photos and you’ll see how far you’ve really come.
Giving up sugars and carbs works for me.(Very little of each if possible?.I do it few months a year.
Shag her mother or best pal, or both
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replace getting back at them and doing it for that, instead doing it for yourself and it being for thyself. don’t worry it’ll shift in time and it’ll be just for your growth best of lucks and sorry that you know that pain but you’ll be stronger
The best revenge is to move on. Build a wonderful life and never think about them again.
You should have lost weight for them before they dumped you so you don’t have to be so negative and vengeful.
Why would you want to give them more energy and live rent free in YOUR MIND! They won’t care, won’t feel hurt back if you lose weight. It won’t change your hurt, you need to deal with that and be healthy mentally and then physically for yourself.
If it’s not for you, you’ll fail and feel even worse about yourself. Seen it so many times. Losing weight and keeping it off never works as revenge like long-term and bouncing up and down is awful for your metabolism.
You already lost the weight of someone who wasn’t for you.
Ozempic. Not kidding.
Start exercising and eating healthy. Do it for YOU
As someone who is loosing weight right now, keep eating, but just eat healthy. Look into those calories to put things in perspective. I’m sorry for your break up and hope you’re doing ok.
Do something for yourself, not for someone else.
Don’t try to “get back at them”. Most times it doesn’t work, and you just end up worrying about revenge more than moving on with your life. If it’s revenge you truly want, then showing them how happy you are without them will work way better (especially if it’s a woman you’re trying to get back at)
Hit the gym. Get on semaglutide
Forget the revenge part tho. That’s a waste of your energy.
Just work on yourself
Don’t do something for someone else.
Read this, please. (Emphasis mine)
Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell
by Marty McConnell
leaving is not enough; you must
stay gone. train your heart
like a dog. change the locks
even on the house he’s never
visited. you lucky, lucky girl.
you have an apartment
just your size. a bathtub
full of tea. a heart the size
of Arizona, but not nearly
so arid. don’t wish away
your cracked past, your
crooked toes, your problems
are papier mache puppets
you made or bought because the vendor
at the market was so compelling you just
had to have them. you had to have him.
and you did. and now you pull down
the bridge between your houses.
you make him call before
he visits. you take a lover
for granted, you take
a lover who looks at you
like maybe you are magic. make
the first bottle you consume
in this place a relic. place it
on whatever altar you fashion
with a knife and five cranberries.
don’t lose too much weight.
stupid girls are always trying
to disappear as revenge. and you
are not stupid.
you loved a man
with more hands than a parade
of beggars, and here you stand. heart
like a four-poster bed. heart like a canvas.
heart leaking something so strong
they can smell it in the street.
Always stay active and keep moving. It helped me
Forgive.
If you can’t do it for yourself what makes you think you can do it for another person
A bunch of meth. And don’t stop till you shoot past your goal and then when you rebound you have to go you want everything’s perfect
Six weeks body make over!’
Lose a lot of weight
You need to mend your heart, not get revenge. If you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, not for some loser. I hope you find happy in your life again.
Anything you do from here on out, do it for you, not for anyone else, especially not whomever broke your heart. You didn’t lose them, they did you a favor by making room for you to find someone right for you. If you direct your energy at someone in your rear view mirror, you’re not using it to look at where you’re going next, and that’s not the way to respect yourself or your future. Don’t waste energy on the wrong person; spend it on yourself! Good luck OP.
Get a nutritionist. No crazy diets. No ozempic
Imagine if you cared enough about this person to put in this kind of effort when you were together, maybe you’d still be together 🤔
Best revenge is to live well..and look good doing it
diet change
quick dirty way
take your current weight and multiply by 10
ie: 200lbs x 10 = calories so 2000 calories
you want to lose weight ?
Subtract 200-500 calories (500 being the most drastic )
so 2000- 300= 1700
that’s how many calories per day you are allowed. do that and it will drop you to 170lbs.
If you wanted to bulk
200lbs x 10= 2000
bulk +300-500
2500 calories worry about that later
Also when you get more advanced (been lifting 20+years )
you can do it off 3 numbers
protein
carbs
fat
For me
210g protein
300 g carb
60g of fat
done
weight lighting regiment
3-5x week
Mon Wed Friday push days
military press , bench press and another favorite of your chosing (squat maybe )
Thurs Sat pull days
row , deadlift
5 sets I like to go volume so id go about 12-15 per..look into push pull routine
quick response hope it helped
PS: Diet is absolutely the most important thing to losing weight – id say 80% diet, 15% training and 5% steroids or insert fav “supplement here”
Eat 1500 a day while getting plenty of low intensity activity like walking. It will melt right off. You have to use a scale for your food and a calorie tracking app, I would also recommend whey protein and collagen peptide shakes. You have to let yourself be hungry. So many people today act like hunger is going to kill them. But it is so important for hormone regulation. You should also do light weight training for full body to help with loose skin. Just take it easy with a deficit that big, muscles can’t recover the same. After you get near your target weight increase calories with sources of protein and increase weights to get the shape you want.
First of all don’t do it for him do it for Getting in shape is a commitment. Stick with it you got this!
The ultimate best way to get revenge is to work on yourself, become the very best you possible, and COMPLETELY IGNORE him forever.
First, you should plan get fit for YOURSELF. If it also fulfills a revenge of sorts, fine. But do it for you. Start with eliminating the worst offenders in your diet (soda, sugar, alcohol) and taking at least a 30 minute walk each day, briskly. Once you see success with this, move on to more strenuous exercise and a deeper overhaul of your food intake. Never deprive yourself though. If you need a piece of chocolate, eat it. Just don’t eat the whole bar!
Love yourself
Get on ozempic.
Get a pair of roller blades. They’ll have you using muscles you don’t normally use and doing cardio at the same time. Plus, it’s fun to glide around and have a low impact on your joints. Helped my sister immensely after she couldn’t lose her pregnancy weight for almost 5 years.
And I’ll echo what someone said above, do it for you and your health. For your self-esteem. Not to show some bone head how wrong they are. You’re worth the effort. They are not.
Put your phone down, and go for a walk
Eat less calories.
Lose the weight but don’t go after them.
Work on yourself mentally. Get yourself to a more positive mental state. Then work on your diet. More protein and vegetables, less carbs, and sugar. Drink water instead of soda, tea, and lemonade. Finally, after you get these started, try being more active. Simply taking walks and eating healthy will make your body healthier.
Edit for clarity. Focus less on low calory diets and more on what you are putting in your body.
“to get back at them” well that’s the first thing to focus on. Don’t pin any happiness on such a thing.
go to the gym
C25K is a useful app… it’s a starting place
You can start by doing it for yourself. Not for others
Calories in calories out.
Eat less.
Do it for yourself and you’ll end up looking AND feeling better. Burning them is a by-product of your success, not the focus.
Good Luck!
Do it for yourself, not for revenge and you’ll have better results.
Hit the gym go for long walks, start jogging. Try hot yoga. Kickboxing is a good one for stress, discipline, burning calories, and toning up.
You gotta do it for yourself. But if you want to “get back at them” I think the healthiest best revenge is loving yourself. Pour all the love that you gave to them back in to you. You will naturally glow and sometimes ppl do not like to see that you’re happy on your own & that you love yourself.
Quit eating too much
you should do it for you
Lose weight for yourself not the heartbreaker.
Cut all refined sugar, walk half an hour daily and visualise yourself standing on the scales at your goal weight. Worked for me 115kg to 84kg. Add in other practices as you go.
Losing weight isn’t going to change your past circumstances. Lose weight for yourself.
Go to therapy
Nutritionfacts.org, How Not to Diet. One of the best sources for real scientifically supported information for weight loss, keeping it off, long-term, and excellent health. The best revenge is great health!
If you’re going to lose weight, do it because it’ll make you healthier, not because it’s some party of your revenge tour. Whoever broke your heart shouldn’t be living in your mind rent free.
How is losing weight gonna get back at them? Wouldn’t the best thing to get back at them is to move on and be happy without them?
You need to understand that they don’t care. If they cared they wouldn’t break your heart. So just maybe, let them go rather than making the next year or so about them too.
I lost 40lbs in less than 5 months by eating less calories than I was burning and fasting from 6pm-12pm every single day.
Be careful about doing it too quick…Loose skin sucks.
Slow and Steady. Build good habits and routine. You’ve got this. 💪
Stop eating
Working on yourself is a healthy place to start. What makes you want to lose a lot of weight?
There is likely emotional trauma to unpack here with self-image. Please prioritize yourself and work on finding happiness from within and your next chapter.