I’ve never used this subreddit, and i don’t recommend my other posts. it’s a dark side and just yeah don’t mind that. but i got a 256$ ticket last night for going 18 over in a 15. i live in a small town blah blah blah. i’m 16 and my parents cannot know because they will take my car for so long. i need this. i’ve waited for so long. i turn 17 next month. and want this summer to be a good one. cop said i can do a driving course online, and pay the ticket without my parents knowledge. i just need a debit card and a hell of a lot of time to sit down. anybody have any advice? this sucks after all i’ve put them through, and honestly, maybe the other posts i have will help show what situation i’m in.
PLEASE ANYONE HELP!!
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Going twice the speed limit is insane. Maybe you should own up to it and have your car taken away.
Are you or the car on your parents insurance?
If so, they’ll know and there’s nothing you can do about it. If they somehow find out later that you’ve hid it from them, it’ll probably be much worse.
Driving is a privilege. You were caught doing over double the speed limit. Take your lumps.
If you go to the courthouse you might be able to pay it in person with cash or a money order. You won’t have to get a debit card. You can get a money order at most gas stations. If you have to get a card see if you can pay it with a prepaid visa card. You can buy them most places like a gift card.
Oof. You can probably buy like a green dot card or even a visa gift card to use, but there’s a good chance that this will affect your insurance and your parents will find out anyway
There is no way you can keep this from your parents. They’ll find out, and then you’ll be in trouble not only for going more than twice the speed limit, but also for trying to hide it.
Prepaid visa!! Put the money on the card when you purchase it and use that. Definitely you should slow down and not speed! Especially in a 15mph zone!! But if you aren’t more diligent and or show a little more care then it’s only a matter of time before they take the car anyway so stop being such a dumbass!
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You need a lawyer who will turn this into a non moving violation that will not impact your insurance rates. The cost of the ticket is nothing compared to the thousands of dollars of increased insurance premiums. Tell your parents before it is too late to get it fixed.
One thing I guarantee you is this: Being a minor, your parents WILL find out. Fact of life, deal with it. Just because the cop said your parents won’t know, doesn’t mean squat.
Second thing I guarantee you is: They will be more pissed off, and more punitive if you are not the person who tells them.
Adult decisions have adult consequences. Driving is an adult activity, and speeding is an adult decision. So, time to face the consequences, and tell your parents, and deal with the fallout.
There’s just no way to keep this from your parents. The ticket gets reported to the insurance company. They will notify your parents.
Your best option is to confess to being stupid and really apologize for screwing up. Own it and tell them you’ll pay the fine. This will show a lot of maturity. Just accept the punishment and maybe ask to speak to a therapist.
Hell, that last one might be your Hail Mary.
There may be a chance that you could take defensive driving, which can help with insurance rates and to get the ticket dismissed. But that doesn’t mean you can hide it.
If you are listed on the policy their premiums will go up on their renewal date so if you don’t want to tell them right away then find out when that date is but be prepared for them to take the car away forever kiss it goodbye also when you get ins for yourself you’re going to be paying more than the average person your age because speeding tickets I think may take a few years to clear off your driving abstract. But if you aren’t listed on the policy then nothing to worry about they would never know 🤷🏻♀️
Your insurance will fuck you, but you already fucked your self. So there is that.
Welcome to adulthood and consequences. Tell your parents they will find out regardless, and it will be worse if they find out and you aren’t the one that told them
No, you don’t “need” this. Driving is not a right.
Why were you going double the speed limit in the first place?
My advice is take the L. Why tf were you going double the speed limit? Honestly it would be good for you to not drive for a while because you could kill someone.
Also maybe chill on the acid 🙏🏻
It’s sounds like you’re not responsible or mature enough to be driving at this time. It’s better you realize that when it costs you 256 dollars rather than when it costs someone their life
You deserve the car being taken away. You could’ve killed someone. Plus they will see it if you’re on their insurance anyway whether you get points taken off or not it can still be held on your record and can absolutely still up your insurance. This just shows you weren’t ready for the responsibility, don’t care your car could’ve been wrecked (small town probably has a good deer population too which absolutely could kill you), and don’t understand the weight of what can happen behind the wheel. I didn’t either growing up til I was driving tired and distracted singing to an OVERLY loud radio and switched lanes forcing a grandma and her two toddler grandchildren off the highway at 70 MPH. Luckily they were able to pull off safely and no one was hurt but when I looked at them and saw some terrified toddlers in the back I realized what could’ve happened. I don’t drive tired, I don’t speed, I don’t keep the radio to crazy levels where it messes with my focus on the road, etc AT ALL anymore. There is so much that can happen and there are some mistakes you cannot undo. Even if you find a way to hide this from your parents (you should not it won’t do you any favors unless they are physically abusive and you are in danger) you should realize what I did before there is a mistake you can’t take back or fix with some money and an online class. I do hope this all resolves well and I truly hope the best for you but please for the sake of yourself and others, be safe
I have a 16 and an 18 year-old and I can tell you right now that if either of them attempted to hide this from me, I am never going to trust them again. You need to own up to your parents about what has happened so they can help navigate through it. They’re going to find out regardless from the insurance company when their rates go through the roof because they’re idiot teenager was being reckless.
Your post history shows you have drug issues and impulse control. In my parental opinion, the absolute last thing you need is a car to go run around and potentially kill yourself or others in.
Take responsibility for what has happened here and do your best to make it up to your parents. That includes paying the ticket, helping with the insurance (If they even let you keep driving) And start acting more mature. You are making some very bad choices for such a young person and it would be unfortunate for you to suffer harsh consequences at such a young age.
Tell your parents and apologize profusely. They WILL find out, and it will be a lot worse for you if they find out from your insurance company.
Also, drive better. Were you speeding in a school zone? That’s a great way to accidentally hit a kid and ruin just your summer but your entire life. If you want grown up privileges, you have to demonstrate grown up maturity and drive very, very carefully, especially as a new driver. One more infraction will get your license suspended.
Honestly, they should take your car away…
My son was also having issues with some things and felt like he kept disappointing us. He also ended up getting a ticket like yours. He ended up telling me and I was glad he did. I went to court with him to support him. He did all the talking to the judge. He took his safe driving class, and it was over. My advice to you is to tell your parents (or at least the one who won’t throw a fit) because your parents love you and want you to go to them for help. When you are young, that’s the time to make your mistakes because you have your parents there to help you through them. Just make sure you are learning from your mistakes and don’t make a habit of it.
Your parents are going to know because the insurance will increase. You might as well be honest and tell them now because when it’s time for renewal that’s when they will see the increase and it’s going to be huge. I would let them know sooner rather than later . Maybe if they take it now you will have it back by summer break.
Do what the cop said. And fucking slow down, dude.
A 15 is like a school zone or downtown old town. You earned this.
Get a lawyer and it will likely be tossed if it’s your first time.
Sorry. Sometimes people need to be punished to learn a valuable lesson. You shouldn’t be speeding. You’re a new driver. Own up to this with your parents and accept whatever punishment they give you. Learn from it.
Your lack of responsibility can get people killed and land you in jail. Saving a couple minutes time is NEVER worth that risk.
Tell your parents what happened. Yes it will suck and sting to have to tell them but if you don’t tell them this lie will hang on you for years. If they take the car, let them. After a week or two ask if you can drive and one of them ride with you. Just to go to the mall or a museum or movie, something fun. They might like that and lighten up a little; getting your first ticket is the worst and they know that but they want to know you won’t do this again, you need to show them by driving around town with them. Accidents happen and you’re not perfect and this was a life lesson. You will be ok but you have to do this right.
Do the online course. Show up to court on the day they say; explain to the judge you’ve taken the online course and you know how to drive safely going forward. Don’t say much else after that; expect the judge to act tough on you, but it’s just to teach you a lesson. Try not to take it personally! Just focus on driving safer. You don’t just “live in a small town blah blah blah” you’re driving a two ton vehicle and if you’re on your phone and you run over someone the ticket and fine will blow this current post out of the small town you live in; you will have even bigger problems.
You’re lucky they didn’t take points off your license which makes insurance cost way more. Which by the way this defensive driving online course can also help reduce points in the future if you ever get them. If you get the defensive driving course complete and tell your insurance it can also reduce the premium! So you’re doing a really good thing. But you have to pass it first.
A speed limit of 35 means go 35. Just because “everyone else does it” doesn’t mean you should too. Even going 1 mile over the speed limit can get you a fine.