in 2016, i (14 at the time) met a stranger (19m) on a now defunct “talk to strangers” website who ended up finding my personal info, stalking me, and stabbing me. he was from another state and drove about 8 hours to get to my house. i’ve posted an ama here about this before, but deleted it shortly after because questions got personal and i got nervous lol. i’m in exposure therapy now and am hoping questions help!
i got stalked and stabbed by a stranger on the internet, AMA
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How has this affected any future relationships with men?
Where did you get stabbed and how long it took to recover?
did you have any idea or suspicion? or was it just completely out of the blue
Are you okay, all things considered?
Wow im so sorry..How long did this person know you before getting so obsessive? Did he get charged?
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What do you wish you had known back then about online safety?
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How did your parents react? At that age I’d almost be more scared of having to explain to my parents sadly
Did they catch the guy and prosecute him?
What steps do you take to reasonably protect yourself nowadays? Obviously we can’t eliminate all uncertainty and make ourselves 100% secure, but some events in my childhood made me what I think now is a pretty situationally aware and reasonably secure person.
I’m a responsible gun owner, have two well trained German shepherds—I guess it helps in a 220lbs former college wrestler though so self defense I learned along the way through that and some mma.
Either way I’m glad you’re doing better now, I’m sorry you went through what you did and I hope for you nothing but the best!
Did he get arrested
I’m glad you are ok! I’m sure you know this, but it wasn’t your fault at a whatsoever, no matter what you “did” or didn’t do.
My question is, Have you tried emdr therapy? I ask because I have PTSD from an assault, and emdr helped immensely.
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Why did you come out of your house when he showed up?
Did you talk to this man much, if so what did you talk about? He seems unhinged but I’ve heard about people doing things like this before. Im glad you’re healed physically and trying to heal emotionally.
Hi. So weird question I guess I just want to know about everything you went through when it happened and after I myself stabbed someone (it was kinda self defense) and now that I’m sober I’m curious on how that guy may have felt and what he went through so I can make amends in whatever way possible (obviously not going to go find him and try and make amends that would probably be traumatic for him and wouldn’t be helpful plus it’s against my terms of probation to go near him)
That’s why you always have to be on your toes…anyway, did you fight back or was it in epic fight like in the movies? Maybe on top of a train or on a bridge?
Is he still in jail? Do you know what became of him?
Did he ever provide any form of reasoning for anything? Both the stalking and the stabbing, or did he just hit & run?
Would you mind going into detail of the events that happened? I read one of your other comments and you mentioned that he was banging on your door and coming out because of fear of getting in trouble with your parents. You also mentioned getting stabbed in the back of your thigh. That is an awkward angle and area to stab someone. Did you turn around and that’s how he gained access to that area or?
Sorry to hear that, I saw what you said about have no trust for all men, which I respect, and I feel like I shouldn’t ask anything but this is a public ama…
Have you considered carrying a gun? The world is a dark place, I definitely would if I was a girl
Hopefully you’re doing better 😊
I don’t have a question but I also used to use that website, it was truly horrifying what kind of people were there