Welp, here I am again. I thought I’d vent for a sec because I’m currently sitting at a concert… and guess what? I’m stuck, like, still sitting here, typing this from my phone because I physically cannot get up without bringing this chair with me.
It’s happening again. I sat down when we got here, and the second I sat, it felt a little too snug, but I told myself, “Girl, you’re here to have a good time. Don’t overthink it.” Ha. Joke’s on me.
Now the show’s wrapping up, people are starting to stand, and I’m just… sitting. Frozen. Because I know the second I try to stand up, either I won’t be able to, or this chair is coming with me. Again. And I don’t think I have it in me to deal with the looks and awkward laughs this time when they see the fat woman standing with a chair stuck to her bum. It’s crowded, loud, and the lighting is way too good for me to pull off a stealthy exit.
This has happened so many times now I’ve honestly lost count. Just a few days ago I got stuck in a waiting room chair at the doctor’s office. It was one of those chairs with the hard plastic arms. I sat down fine, but when I tried to get up? Nope. My hips said, “Absolutely not.” The people there had to pretend not to notice as I was giving it my all to push myself out.
Every time this happens, I feel like I’m this walking spectacle no one wants to acknowledge but everyone sees. I try to laugh it off, make jokes, act like it’s no big deal. But inside, I’m exhausted. Embarrassed. Frustrated. I just want to exist without analyzing if I’ll fit in every single chair I encounter.
What am I supposed to do to stop this from happening?
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Use this as a wake up call and motivation to lose weight and take better care of yourself.
The honest hard answer? Losing weight. Obviously I don’t know what your body situation no idea where you’re at and I’m not at all shaming you, after all it’s a lot easier to say “lose weight” than actually doing so I get it. Genuinely though it seems like this is causing you a lot of mental stress.
Theres obviously no issue in having and maintaining a higher level of fat after all everyone has different bodies who react in various ways. However there’s a line, if it’s to the point where it’s effecting your daily life and your mental health it’s a sign you need to take that next difficult step. Truly there’s no other real way of fixing your issue and I’m sure it’ll improve your life for the better in so many regards.
Yeah sounds like a wake up call to better your health. You’ll start to feel much better when you start
Lose weight
This happens to be the most intriguing post I’ve read today. I don’t have a good answer for you. I hope you get through this.
It sounds like chairs love you enough to grab onto you and not let go. I’d say the answer is to not sit anywhere until you lose weight. It’s going to keep happening.
“What am I supposed to do to stop this from happening?” I think you already know the answer, no matter how hard it may be.
Are you serious? Go to the gym.
I’m really sorry this happened to you:(
Honestly, what do you think you’re supposed to do to keep this from happening again
I was big it’s not comfortable at all. I use mobility aides and sometimes the store scooters. People were rude telling me to walk and lose weight leave the scooters for someone who needs them. My cane is in the basket I have arthritis and mobility issues. I finally had enough after seeing a pic of myself and weighing in for the first time in a while. I lost the weight I’m not skinny im somewhere in between. It’s been the best thing I’ve done for myself. My bloodwork is the best it’s been in years. My pain hasn’t changed much but treatment should work better now that I’m not putting so much pressure on my joints. This should be a wake up call to lose. I’m not shaming you there’s nothing wrong with being bigger. I’m just offering advice and giving you my experience.
This feels like a weird fetish thing
I have a friend who had zero interest in losing weight. She got a dog. Had to walk the dog. Oops. She accidentally lost 30 pounds. She liked it. Started walking further. Another 20. Really liked it. Started monitoring her food intake. She lost 150 pounds. The journey continues. I know it sounds overwhelming but one step at a time you can do this.
The world needs to accommodate more diverse bodies. I understand a concert is difficult, but you can ask your doctor’s office to have larger chairs, chairs with arms suitable for pushing upright, etc. 90% of people who lose weight gain it back, and many gain more. “just lose weight” is not a real solution.
Come from a person who was morbidly obese, if this isn’t a sign idk what is. I was 350, so it’s not about being overweight it’s about your health and the fact that you have no care or concern to loose it, I’ll be honest I’m making assumptions about why or what’s causing you to have these issues, idk if you have medical issues stopping you from losing but we know it’s a weight thing and that’s fine. But asking “how do I stop this” but like you aren’t fully aware of where to start or how to fix it.
Weight loss is hard, coming from personal experience it sucks, it really does but, chairs aren’t going to get bigger and stronger. The memory of sitting down on a chair in middle school and the metal legs bending and collapsing. It still haunts me. I hope you can make a change, for your sake.
Can you hold the front and/ or back of the chair as you get up, push it down and off of you so it doesn’t come with you?
Carry a portable chair with you that’s comfortable and can take your weight?
Slide forward under the arms. Like you’re a drawer. Ask me how I know.
What am I supposed to do to stop this from happening? Is this a real question?! Lol
Simple, lose weight.
How? Simple, burn more calories than you eat.
Not trying to be an asshole, but I think it’s a very obvious answer.
Get in a GLP-1, look into tele health companies
What.about losing weight
Not sure your size but Ozempic has been a life saver for me. No way to weigh me here but based on decreased size and ability to move, I’m down about 140 pounds. And almost zero cravings. Consider talking to your doctor.
Either stop subjecting yourself to these situations or lose the weight.
My come to Jesus moment was not fitting on a rollercoaster. I got angry (at myself) then got serious.
What I didn’t do is ask myself “how did this happen?” You know how it happens, you know how to fix it.
Spoiler alert, it’s not reformation of public spaces to accommodate larger bodies.
Maybe you get the attention of two girls with hips like yours to come over there and hold the chair down and pull you out and that shouldn’t take about a second or two once you get started and maybe they can do it in a stealthy way or just don’t worry about it that embarrassment stuff at all don’t worry about the practicality of getting out of it. Surely there’s two girls that are about your size if not bring them with you next time. Or if you can’t do that maybe wait till most everybody leaves if you’re that embarrassed and have just whoever the security guard or whoever might be left help you out
Start carrying a Sawzall with you wherever you go.
Ozempic
You just need to burn more calories than you consume so you lose some weight. MyFitnessPal is a great, easy-to-use calorie tracking app. I’d also recommend upping your fiber intake. Fiber supplements like psyllium husk powder or even chia seeds are a good way to increase fiber intake which will make you feel fuller for longer, so you’ll naturally eat less
stop sitting in chairs meant for kindergartners! 😀
glp 1 . Try it. It works.