Today I got sinus surgery. I am staying at a friend’s apartment while she’s out of town because she a reclining couch and my boyfriend insisted on being here to help me.
I was in the kitchen changing out my gauze while I was still recovering from anesthesia. My boyfriend wanted to make chicken nuggets in my friend’s toaster oven and literally asked me to do it for him because he “couldn’t figure it out”. It wasn’t even plugged in.
I plugged it in as blood dripped down my face and I told him that this isn’t “help” and that I am reconsidering our relationship as a whole.
I couldn’t imagine his “help” if I had kids with him!
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Yeah, that’s fucked up of him
You’re right to reconsider, and it is far, far better to learn this now. I hope you have a speedy recovery!
I’m concerned that you’re still calling him your bf. See this useless dude for what he is and let him loose.
Yeah- so break up with him. He is not a partner, he’s a child that needs someone to look after him. I’m so sorry you have this experience, but I hope you use it as a pivot point.
Dump him yesterday.
He has a computer in his pocket, he can pull up instructions any time. The fact that he’s bugging you with that stuff is ridiculous.
My ex did this kind of sh*t. I’m much, much, much happier on my own! Being alone is less stressful and easy less work than trying to take care of a grown person.
I wouldn’t have bothered showing him. So easy to find instruction online, youtube. He bothered you will you are sick
OMG he can’t work a toaster oven?… poor excuse for a human being and will be useless as a partner
Why the fuck are you still with a man who can’t toast a piece of bread?
He’s dead weight. Time to let him go.
He could’ve asked Google, for crying out loud! The number of adults who can’t use the phone in their hands to solve a simple problem astounds me.
This is what I call a “pet man.” You don’t have a boyfriend, you have a big expensive pet. Does he even catch mice?
A new low for weaponized incompetence
My coochie would be drier than the Sahara desert
Learned incompetence. If I don’t want to do it someone else will do it for me… I’m starting to think he wanted to be with you not because of what he could do for you in helping you to recover, but his inability to function without adult supervision…. Congratulations it’s a boy…
This was one of the major turning points with my ex. I had an emergency appendectomy, and he had to work, so one of our coworkers took me home from the hospital. And when he got home he’d complained about how busy work was, and never made any effort to comfort or take care of me. Then neither he nor our roommate wanted to make anything for dinner. We usually took turns cooking – me 80%, roommate 15%, ex bf 5%. I cooked us dinner that night. Then he wanted me to return to work before the doctor recommended and didn’t care that that meant I’d be going over my weight lift limit.
I will always remind people. Changing your life trajectory is hard. Really fucking hard. I’ve had bad days and bad bad days and good days and everything in between. Not fucking once have I regretting leaving that shitty, emotionally abusive, controlling relationship.
So….is he an ex yet???