I was never told. The bride-to-be went up to my husband at church today and asked him if he was excited for the wedding. He said yes we’re looking forward to it.
She then proceeded to tell him that actually only he was invited in the end. The RSVPs were for both of us, but the actual invite only had his name on the envelope. We didn’t notice.
Edit: My husband then told her if I’m not invited he isn’t going and left at that point.
I’ve been crying on and off for the last couple of hours because they could’ve just told me. I wouldn’t have been upset. But doing this to me, not even telling me but sneakily uninviting me by not putting my name on the envelope AFTER we both RSVPd is horrible. It’s not about the fact that I’m uninvited. It’s how they did it. It’s the sheer lack of respect.
I have too much going on in my life right now. The last thing I needed was to be made to feel worthless and feel like I’m not even due the respect to be told I’m not invited. I want to curl up into a ball and die.
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I would not be mad. I would not want to be associated with any People who are hurtful like that. Also, your husband should have told her off
Yeah they sound like awful people, I would try to take this as a positive because you found out that they’re awful and can now cut them out of your life lol
People are SO RUDE and MEAN!! I’m so sorry 😞
Your husband 100 per cent has your back. Like to there and then say it without even thinking.
Some people are not worth your tears.
After the wedding of people ask why you weren’t there, casually mention what she did.
I actually don’t mind not getting invited to weddings. It saves me money.
Why were you not invited? Unless there’s something you did, youre NTA, and even then it would seem passive aggressive.
That being said, any wedding you’ve not been invited is a wedding not worth going to, and I don’t mean in a ‘sour grapes’ way.
How tacky! Don’t even worry about it, just treat yourselves to a fun date night instead and be glad you don’t have to waste your money on a wedding gift for such spiteful people.
She’s got real mean girl energy. You deserve better people in your life, and way to go to your husband for telling her “it’s us, not me.”
Your husband values you. I have a deep self worth wound I will work on probably for the rest of my life. I hope you are able to see your value and worth and realize people like this bride have something unhealed in them that allows them to enjoy inflicting pain.
Those people are not my people. I hope they aren’t yours either. Hugs innernet stranger.
Don’t be sad. You’ve got a great husband who did the right thing without even having to post the question on Reddit!
(I recently saw a post from a husband about should he go to a wedding that his wife dad expressly not invited to. You’ve got a keeper, he already knew what to do.)
Also what kind of people go to this church? Are you sure you want to associate with people like this?
My grandfather, my great grandfather and my uncle all had churches. I repeat respectfully, don’t build your close friends out of the church. Their allegiance is ever shifting. Join a reading group, or volunteer for a soup kitchen. Church folk are awful. I grew up Baptist. I’m a happy backslider. Your self worth comes from a positive sense of self and your value to the collective. One person, particularly a church chick, should have this much control over you. What is your upset really about?