Almost a year ago I went drinking with my sister and our mutual friend.
I got really drunk, I don’t know how I didn’t pass out. And as the title suggests I groped the mutual friend of ours. I knew she liked me few years ago but I never liked her like that.
She’s taken and I don’t want anything sexual with her. But of course I had to fuck shit up. Badly.
She blocked me which is fair play and I think she hasn’t said about it to anyone, I haven’t neither.
Had a good amount of panic attacks about the situation because I don’t have any explanation for my actions and I still feel disgusted.
Now here’s the fun part. My sister mentioned that she’s moving next to her and asked me to help her to move. So I’m fucked either way, if I agree to this I think the truth might come out, and if I don’t then I feel shit deep down for not helping and potentially apologizing to her. So yeah.
I know I’m the one who caused this shit and I’m not afraid to admit it. I’m just afraid how things can affect my relationships if it all goes down
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If I were you, I’d definitely apologize. Give her this explanation.
It would be better to try to talk to her and resolve any misunderstandings as soon as possible. You’ll be alright if you assist her in moving and do nothing more than simply talk.
You’d think it would be obvious that showing up on the doorstep of the girl you sexually assaulted and striking up a conversation with her about it (“hey thanks for not telling lol”) would be a terrible idea. But I suppose when you’re the type to do that to people, common sense and decency is a bit of a grey area.
Let me help you out: Do not go near that poor woman or her home. Ever.
No, she does not want to talk to you about it.
No, just because she didn’t tell anyone, does not mean she liked it and/or forgives you.
Every time she thinks about you she wants to throw up.
She hopes you get cancer.
Your sister will just have to find someone else to help her move- tell her you fell while loitering near an isolated running trail and need to rest your back.
If your sister is going to be her neighbour then it’ll be hard to avoid her. If you have any method of contacting her other than going to her home I would be inclined to send a brief message apologising for what happened, acknowledging you over stepped the mark and letting her know you have no intention of going near her again. Don’t grovel, don’t put your side across, just give her the information that will hopefully help her feel at ease with the situation.
Good luck to you.
You made the decision to grope that woman and now you have to live with the consequences. It’s pretty shitty of you to remind her of a traumatic event in her life all because YOU want to ease YOUR consciousness. Get over yourself. This scenario is no longer about you so stop making it seem that way. Leave the woman alone and let her live her fucking life without you coming back in the picture and bringing everything up when she’s probably already stressed about moving. This is not about you OP and the quicker you can get that through your thick ass head the better it will be
One of the reasons I chose to stop drinking was because I found myself doing things I wasn’t proud of once I sobered up. I want to be clear—I never acted inappropriately toward anyone or crossed any boundaries—but alcohol did lead to situations that weren’t in line with my values. If you ever feel like drinking causes you to act in ways you’re not comfortable with, it might be worth stepping back and re-evaluating how much you’re consuming. It’s easy for things to escalate unintentionally, and it’s always better to avoid putting yourself in a situation you might regret.
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If alcohol makes you grope ppl, hope you quit and never drink again…..