I had complete facial reconstruction because I got my face stomped by several people.. AMA

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Im doing this for me because I’ve never really talked about it and I don’t really know how to. It happened in either August or early September of 2006. I don’t remember exactly when but I know I got out of the hospital on my 18th birthday (September 25, 2006).

Im not sure it’s needed but I put the NSFW cuz it may end up being gruesome or potentially triggering for someone with PTSD.

thank you all for asking questions and saying kind things. it has been helpful to talk about it. much love to you all

Comments

  1. SunnyyClouds Avatar

    How did you feel looking at yourself for the “first time” again?

  2. ArmorPlatedGuardRail Avatar

    Do you have pictures? Before, after, and of the injuries?

  3. Ok-Neighborhood-2117 Avatar

    how long was it hard to eat for

  4. Sarah_8872 Avatar

    How did it happen?

  5. snowdragonfruit Avatar

    I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had to endure this, I hope you are doing as well nowadays as one can after experiencieng that 🥺

    Where were you when got stomped? What where the overall circumstances leading to you getting stomped?

    Are the reconstructions done for now?

  6. Jovelle63 Avatar

    Sorry this happens to you. Do you know what was the motive? What punishment did the perpetrators receive?

  7. Teddy_Bob Avatar

    How do you feel? Do you have mental support? Do you still take medication?

  8. User45677889 Avatar

    Did they do a good job? The surgeons, not the stompers. Would you know you’d had major work done?

  9. Environmental_Crab59 Avatar

    Have you gotten therapy?

  10. SHADER_MIX Avatar

    im sorry this happenned to you, what a coincidence i was born the 25th of september 2006

    how are you doing today several years after it happened ?

  11. carawwwwrrrr Avatar

    Do you think the experience changed you or your views on physical appearance?

  12. Jolly-Feature-6618 Avatar

    I’ve seen this happen to someone outside a nightclub in Ireland in the 90’s and the person was never the same mentally afterwards.

    He wasn’t badly scarred physically but mentally dulled forever.

    He was always a “blaggard” a trouble maker, always found a scrap somewhere and everyone just put it down to fate.

    Do you think you looked for it or where you just unlucky?

  13. JerryST97 Avatar

    What was the recovery process like?

  14. Secret-Avocado-Lover Avatar

    What happened to the people who stomped your face? Did you at least some financial restitution?

  15. silentparts7 Avatar

    Were the perpetrators prosecuted?

  16. edWORD27 Avatar

    When someone meets you for the first time, do they even notice that something is different about how you look? Also, is this incident something that you bring up with people when you first meet them?

  17. papamilli66 Avatar

    Were there any repercussions for the people? Did you ever think about revenge in any way? If that were me as soon as I was healed there would be a few less people on this earth

  18. ClayGrewTall Avatar

    Sorry to hear about this. I don’t have a question but I was randomly attacked in London by a gang about 15 years ago and woke up in hospital with very little memory of the attack, just vague impressions. I also suffered nerve damage in my face and to this day have numbness above the right eye, have scarring.

    I think being a man there was always a slight sense of shame about what happened. There was awkwardness and I never shook the sense I wasn’t in some way responsible. Work were really unsupportive, the police were terrible and even friends didn’t really know exactly what to say.

    It’s been 15 years and I’ve never really confronted that night and have a lot of trauma as a result, even though I remember very little about it.

    I really hope you deal with it better than I did and get the support you need

  19. TresCeroOdio Avatar

    Did the stompers ever end up getting revenge on the guy they actually meant to stomp? And have you interacted with any of them since?

  20. Suspicious_North6119 Avatar

    Is the reconstruction successful? Is your current appearance far from the previous?

  21. NoCryptographer7112 Avatar

    What went through your mind when it happened?

  22. Sufficient-Artist938 Avatar

    im so sorryyyyyy plz are you alright mentally do you need emergency chiken nuggies and emotional support cuddles? •m•

  23. Alone_Broccoli7882 Avatar

    Why did they do it? Do you look like how you looked before? Also hope you’re ok!

  24. RecklessRoute Avatar

    Did they do the reconstructive surgery immediately after the injury? How long did it take for you to heal up and for the swelling to go down?

  25. SapphireGoldy Avatar

    Not asking anything just sending you good vibes and praying for your mental healing. ❤️‍🩹

  26. JamesHowlettReborn Avatar

    Are you better looking?

  27. Twiseheart777 Avatar

    I am so sorry this happened to you. It’s a lot to work through for sure – the trauma – the betrayal – and still seeing the ones who did it – and even though your friends don’t know what those people did to you – to hear your friends say they think the people who assaulted you are great – that has to really hurt. I am so sorry.
    I commend you for speaking out about your experience. Even talking about it in this forum can be healing. ❤️‍🩹 I really do hope you find support in your community- individual therapy or I don’t know if there is group therapy for victims of brutal crimes. You need to be supported and to feel supported. You deserve support.

  28. The_Cars93 Avatar

    Regarding the friend who won the fight, how do they feel know you got mistaken for them and beaten up because of it?

  29. lelskis Avatar

    Reading through your answers, you sound very insightful and kind. Sounds like you’ve evolved a lot over the last 20 years.

    Are you married? Single? Do you want kids?

  30. Heavy_Wolverine4001 Avatar

    I’m sorry to hear this, but after the surgery, it’s a new life!

  31. World-Curiosity Avatar

    Did you ever think/plan on hurting them or taking revenge in other ways?