From a guys perspective, what could I say? I kinda just want to get an understanding of what he’s thinking. If he’s over it, then fine. But I wanted to check in. What would you say if you were me?
We hooked up Sunday and it’s now Wednesday. Haven’t heard from him
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If he ghosted you over period sex that says more about his maturity than about you. but if you need closure, keep it simple and direct ‘Hey, just wanted to check in. No pressure, but I enjoyed spending time with you and was curious where your head’s at.’ If he’s into you, he’ll respond. If not, silence is your answer and that’s closure too.
I think you have your answer.
I mean if the timing wasn’t communicated ahead of time, that’s significantly inconsiderate. I wouldn’t bail on the timing, but would on someone that inconsiderate.
Did you warn him that you were on your period before you guys had sex? Because that’s a really big factor. For some guys, it’s a hard pass.
I’m a lesbian who is not put off by that at all but I still need a heads up. especially if we’re newly dating and I don’t know your “schedule”
Tbh, this dude ain’t worth ur time. If he ghosts u over smth as natural as a period, he obviously ain’t mature enough to handle a real adult rel’ship. You deserve better, gal. If u rlly wanna chk in, just be straightforward, ask him sia. But remember, ur respect and dignity > any boi out there. Stay strong sis 💪.
For dignity’s sake don’t reach out. Let it be.
I assume he knew you were on your period before having sex with you? I don’t know why he would agree to have sex with you if he was weirded out about it… idk I could be wrong but I think you are over thinking it a little bit. How old are yall?
Edit: FWIW, as a dude I would always encourage you to send 1x text to see if he if is still interested. If he doesn’t respond you have your answer.
>If he’s over it, then fine. But I wanted to check in. What would you say if you were me? We hooked up Sunday and it’s now Wednesday. Haven’t heard from him
If he were really interested he would have reached out. He’s a grown man, he knows how to use his words to communicate with you. The fact that he hasn’t said anything since Sunday is very telling. I would move on, who needs this kind of stress.
Don’t text him. Don’t do that again unless you’ve been dating the guy for awhile. Just move on. Trust me.
It’s disgusting to have sex when you are on your period.
Hard to say. Is this unusual? Do you usually speak more than once every few days? Have you reached out to him at all ?
Chalk it up to a valuable learning experience.
I’ve known guys who went on a few dates with a woman and while they liked her they weren’t yet sure the romantic chemistry was there or that they clicked. They still had sex though. Usually they didn’t ghost but let her down easy. A guy who ghosts is an asshole.
I’m probably going to get hate for this, since I know my view is in the minority. 💀
From my perspective as a guy, and assuming I did hookups, which I don’t, I’d probably feel a little off afterward. Even if I enjoyed the interaction, it would’ve felt too easy to access something so private. Not only did I get access to your body, but it happened while you were on your period, which made it feel even more vulnerable and we just met pretty much. That doesn’t give the impression that you’re looking for something serious. So honestly, I’d assume we both got what we wanted and that was it.
In reality, though, I wouldn’t have slept with you unless I got to know you pretty well. I’m old school, so I would’ve married you first and then we could have all the affections we wanted. I also wouldn’t have ghosted you. I’m aware of how most women process things like this, even if feminism keeps pushing the idea that women think the same as men. I would have expected you to feel the way you do now, and I would have reached out to check on your mental state.
As for advice, don’t do that again. Your body is extremely valuable, and no one should get access to it easier than they would getting a job. And don’t text him. If he had any foresight or care for you, he would have already checked in. Unless he’s dead that is.
Wow… No need for you to feel regretful or stupid. This is not a loss, so don’t chase this guy. He is gum on the bottom of your shoe. Move on, enjoy your life.
This is all in your mind.
Just ask him how was period sex.
May he had to buy a new bed.
Did you tell him you were menstruating?
Or did he find out once you were going at it?
This has nothing to do with period sex. He isnt that into you, he just wanted to hook up. If you want an actual relationship, take your time and be clear about expectations before sex. Casual sex is fine as long as everyone should is on the same page
Maybe he’s waiting for your cycle to be over and then reach out?
In case I would not chase him up. He knew.
The general sentiment is “I’m just happy to be here” of he don’t want to wear his red wings proud let him go. If you let him know, and he accepted that’s on him.
Any dude worth anything knows ladies get horned up in the rag too. If he’s not ok with it, then he shouldn’t do it.
Wait for him to respond and move on. You’ll have the best of both worlds.
Y’all swapping those kind of fluids with strangers? Jeez
Some will care some won’t. Personally if they care then that should be a turnoff for you.
Period sex is a natural occurrence the older you get. If he’s still young he may have been off put by it. Period sex does feel different to men (at least for me) so he may be overthinking that too. Worst case he’s a hoe just trying to fuck as many girls as he can.
If you want things to go further then yes, text him.
He may be waiting for you to reach out to him. He may think you didn’t have a good time since you haven’t contact him. This is also a possibility
I read some of your replies. I’m 10 years happily married. 14 years together. Have had period sex prob twenty times. Which doesn’t seem like a lot over 14 years. But… idk if you two went two rounds & he ghosted it almost seems he’s not into you. Sorry. Maybe I’m wrong. But please don’t get insecure about what’s normal/natural. Gosh. Sounds creepy to even say that. Idk. 🤷🏻♂️
Sounds like a one nighter with a loser. Don’t be the loser in it. Move on.