I had the best girl in the world and I lost her. She is still in the world, but she’s no longer mine and never will be mine again. The truth is I never deserved her and I was lucky that she saw something in me and gave me a chance to earn her in my life. I could have earned her, but instead I took her for granted. I was shallow. I was stubborn. I needed it to be right. I was intolerant of her views that didn’t align with mine. I became a lazy partner. I could have deserved her. I could’ve earned her, but instead, I threw it all away without stopping to realize I owed her the best version myself. I owed her the best I could possibly be. I had her and I lost her.
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womp womp💔💔
Take it as a lesson to learn from, friend. There will be another girl, some day. So, take these lessons and make it right with the next one.
Lesson learned. Go find another! There are millions of them! 😜🤗
Why can’t you just try to win her back?
Maturation nodes in your life. Don’t keep repeating the same node or you’ll never be ready for the real hard bit to come.
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It’s never a truly end. You seem very mature with your feelings by the way of your dictation.
And if it is the end, you will prosper along. I’m going through a break up as well. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Hope is all we have. Much love ❤️
Nobody is perfect, neither you nor her. It’s easy to romanticize the past and wonder, “what if,” but living in the past makes you blind to the present.
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All we can do is learn from this mistakes we’ve made prior, and move forward with it all. You may never make it right with her; but you can make it right for whomever might come next.
I hope you will find love again one day, and hold these lessons in mind.
They don’t call them “the one that got away” for no good reason… My condolences, bruv.
I’ve been there and some days it still haunts me…
The relationship ended years ago too.
Take some comfort in knowing that there will be others out there for ya, but none of them will ever completely erase that disappointment.
Grow from it. That’s the only way you won’t make the same mistake if you’ve find another unicorn out there.
And as they say, you never know… You start acting like the man you know you should’ve/could’ve been for her, n maybe she’ll come back around when the time is right. Stranger things happen all the time.
Sorry brother. It’ll get better, but you’ll probably carry this with you forever. Learn from it and move on a day at a time.
lol you sound like my ex but ig we’ll learn next. But people like that often come once in a life time so.
Everybody that comes into your life and you have a relationship with isn’t suppose to be life long relationship some people comes in and out its only for a learning experience.
Probably tryna show her that he poured his heart out.
There’s lots of love out there in the world. Literally almost everyone wants to be loved, work on your bad habits and keep moving, you’ll bump into another wonderful person some day.
I had that sentiment once. The truth is the real right person inspires you so you almost automatically don’t end up doing what you describe.
That being said, if you work on figuring yourself out more, you’ll be ready to meet that right person.
It was nearly 10 years before I met my now wife. But that’s ok too. I have some nice memories of short-lived flings and false starts while I gained experience, learned what works for me and what doesn’t.
It’s all just a part of life even though it sucks right now.
You’re gonna be just fine. Believe in yourself. She’s not the only awesome one out there for you!
same
Man dude i feel you i had who I thought was my everything and went and screwed it up. We need to learn those lessons and prevent something like that ever happening again for the future love we might have. Much love
Go to therapy and make yourself be better. Learn from your mistakes and be a better partner for your next relationship
Yeah when you know, you know. Sorry for your loss.
Ok but why do y’all do this lol. The outcome is so predictable. It makes no sense
>will never be mine again
the truth is, you never own a person, if being together with someone to you, is “owning” them, you should focus more on your approach
there’s no such thing as the best anything in the world, everything is perceived differently by different people. today you think she’s perfect, in a couple years your wife is the reason the sun hasn’t died yet. stop over thinking it, good to be in your feelings to allow urself to heal but u gotta move on at some point
Do it. Improve yourself, be the man she deserves and go get her. Life is too short. Do it. Do it while you still have the opportunity.
I’m on the other end of a situation like this. I wish he’d say these exact words to me, but I know he never will. Never forget this feeling
She’s not special.
If your views don’t align, you shouldn’t be with that person. Never fold for someone.
You only know your feelings until they leave
Have you ever been house-hunting? Every house is your dream house until you see the next one.
Maybe you should’ve listened to her the first few times she tried to talk to you. You get what you put into a relationship which sounds like wasn’t much. Good for her for finally seeing the light. Hopefully you get yourself together and find yourself. Maybe next time you’ll take what you learned here and it won’t happen in your next relationship.
Nobody is ever yours. A proper relationship is two people sharing themselves with eachother.
Now that we have that out of the way, I’m sorry that things didn’t work out for you. This is not the end of the world and you have the rest of your life to do things differently with yourself and anyone else involved with you.
It’ll be ok. You didn’t state your age but it’s obvious you’re young. You have lots of time to learn and grow and in the next ten years you’ll literally be at least three different people before you settle into who you actually are.
You got this bud.
Have you talked to her? I would bet that her hearing this from you along with some changed behaviors would be a great start to earning her and she would most likely be a happy girl. It’s important that you take no for an answer though and let it go if need be. I’m guessing this is fresh so you may be being a bit dramatic, shoot your shot. I know a lot about being shallow and stubborn and refusing to see others views and it killed every relationship I ever tried to have. The best version of yourself is shining through this post, share it with her. If it ends up being over, at least you tried and you have less regrets. Remember changed behaviors is the key for any future relationships. Good luck, and sometimes love sucks.
You owe yourself the best possible version of you. Everything happens for a reason.